We reviewed in the previous post How To Reach Faster Your Goals Through Your Past? If you didn’t see it yet, you can check it out here.
Today, we’re going to review how to govern over our goals, projects, our dreams and lead the game with indomitable confidence…
If it sounds or feel like a bold promise, it is.
I’m going to do my part and share some personal perspectives with you “with confidence” just to illustrate the point of this blog.
I am confident that in the end of this sharing you will be able to understand on how to generate confidence at will when you need it.
How about that for a confident and bold promise?
Are you game?
If you’re ready for a ride, let’s jump in.
It’s very important to discern one key distinction about confidence.
Confidence is NOT Arrogance, and it is one of the major myth misunderstood concept out there.
What is the difference and the nuance between Arrogance and confidence?
Arrogance is always related to the ego and it has a sense of entitlement that comes from people associating with the past.
Arrogance is born from a false sense of superiority by comparing self to other people; this is why arrogance is limited at the ego level, because it is concerned with competing and comparing self to others; While confidence on the other hand has an expanded perspective because it is looking beyond self as we will understand soon.
Arrogance is framed from a relative “position” vantage point. For example, a prince who has inherited the title of “prince” because of his birth parents might feel arrogant toward a non-royal child because of society standards. Arrogance is not sustainable and not build on solid foundation, while confidence is timeless, and without boundaries as we will see later.
Another extrapolation to not confuse, is the far-right polarization of arrogance, or sometimes associated with being presumptuous, which is even worse than arrogance as it’s an empty sense of arrogance, in a way that it is purely based on a sense of entitlement and with lack of respect towards other.
Notice, Arrogance cannot exist by itself- Arrogance needs a company- arrogance is always in context with someone.
Second major misunderstood myth about confidence is what I called the amateur confidence.
The amateur tie a direct correlation between confidence and performance, results or outcome achieved or attained. That’s a rookie move. Confidence comes from within and is not tied to our performance.
Not to alienate this popular believes that suggests that we build stronger confidence as we perform better. That’s the confidence built in the “alike” of the doubting Thomas who always claimed that
I’ll believe it when I see it first.
In fact, part of the human condition leads us to lean toward that kind of conditioning since birth.
We learn to develop confidence based on our previous actions; In many cases, based on our past behaviors and actions we are rewarded accordingly. In a way we are trained to rely on “conditional confidence” based on our past behavior; Kind of “karmic” confidence;
Confidence is something that is NOT karmic, in fact that’s probably one of the only element that normalizes our lives on earth like death is for every human being.
Now, that we know what confidence is NOT, let’s learn about what confidence is all about.
Confidence comes from the Latin CON- fidere. The prefix “con” means “with”, while “fidere” means faith, trust; meaning confidence is derived from the meaning of moving with faith and trust.
It’s important to make a difference here, faith is not necessary here a “religious” or blind faith- rather a trust based on a reliability and on something that we can count on no matter what.
What that means?
Confidence, unlike arrogance (which is past based) is forward looking -based on trust.
What trust are we talking about?
It’s a trust based on an unfailing relationship- that relationship is the covenant we have, before even our birth since the first heart beat we have in our mother womb- it’s the abiding relationship with life itself that’s beyond any circumstances, or any human beings.
Any master, any legend that you truly admire that built and develop an unshakable confidence had at some point the deep seeded belief- that no matter what their circumstances are, there is something within them that is bigger than their current circumstances.
Whether, it’s Thomas Edison creating the light bulb, Columbus daring the ocean, Steve Jobs chasing his dreams of being a business tycoon and making a “dent” in this universe, or a Michael Jordan excelling on basketball court… they all had one thing in common- they all new within that there’s something greater than what their circumstances were.
Confidence is built inside out- Not outside in unlike many amateurs suggest it.
Now let’s find out and see how we can develop that infallible confidence.
I’m going to pause here and I really hope you do this exercise (that might seem trivia), as this is something to be experienced, again and again, no matter how many times you’ve done it.
Let’s take a deep breathe right now.
As you are reading these lines. Could you please stop for 5 second and take a deep breathe?
Can you feel the air in your lung?
Please take another deep breath. three or four times if you can.
Now let me ask you the simple question, that breathe that you took, did you perform that breathe by yourself?
Were you mindful and present in those inhalation moment?
Did you feel this power that is with you that allows your heart to beat as well?
There is a power with you, as you feel your breath, or your heartbeat.
The truth is, no matter how you want to call it, Life energy or spirit or field or God, or no matter
your religious affiliation, that power is real beyond any circumstances, beyond any interpretation.
To simplify, why don’t we call that power as life itself?
Now, this is where you build within your unshakable confidence-with three principles that are undeniable.
If you prefer video, you can check it out here.
Adhere to the principle without a doubt, that life given to you, precede any circumstance, organization, institution that there is.
The fact is that life in you- is relevant as long as you keep breathing, because that’s the definition of life itself in this case of utilitarian perspective. Life itself doesn’t have waste-
What is not used dies, or it’s supposed to grow.
That brings me to the point about life itself- Life is always seeking to grow and expand. The seed grow from the ground to become a tree.
Life is always seeking to expand itself by definition or it will evolve and change its form.
It’s trusting in that relationship with life, that as long as I breathe, as long as my heart beat,
I can trust life itself. It’s a covenant with something bigger than myself, or any other relationship we can experience as human being because it’s precede everything else.
That’s where true confidence is built. From within. It’s not something given to you, or based on “conditional results”.
Indomitable Confidence is build from the deliberate practice of understanding our relationship with life itself, that goes beyond any society norms, or standard, or results.
Moving forward with Confidence is then trusting on the relationship we have with life itself.
It’s acknowledging that there is, this power inside us, with us, by us and for us always at all times as long as we keep breathing and our heart is beating.
If one truly understands this principle and adhere to it. Life itself become a playground where you are here to develop and grow your capacity, so you can contribute.
With that, you can approach any game, any project, any goal with unshakable confidence- that no matter the outcome, you will crush it.
The video here is also explicit here.
Now I’m curious about you, Post below what you do to generate your confidence?
Till next Time, This is Your Moment-DARE TO SHINE
We reviewed in the previous post How To Ignite Your 2018 Vision With your Why?
If you didn’t see it yet, you can check it out here.
Today, we’re going to understand and review how to reach your goals faster through your past.
When you can change the memories of your past, you can move into a new future and by means of that you can elevate your vision for the future.
We’re going to discuss a powerful practice that has been shared in all cultures, traditions by many masters.
You might have guessed by now?
If not let me share with you a short story to illustrate this point.
When I was little boy in Africa growing up, In the tropical forest, I was very scared of a snake called green mamba. The green mamba has the reputation to kill people after between 30 minutes to 2 hours of its bite. I think I even developed a snake phobia because of the green mamba.
However, when I grew up I realized that the green mamba bite is not deadly but its venom is.
After the green mamba’s bite, the venom enters our bloodstream and if we don’t stop it on time, when it mixed itself to our bloodstream, it reaches our heart and lung and by mean of that- there’s asphyxia.
Why is that relevant to you?
Each of us has had hard moments in the past, and most of the time we hold to the energy of those moments as we feel victim or we feel that we’ve been wronged and we cannot change anything.
Ultimately, there’s one thing we’ve all heard about and know about but not of all us know it’s true power of The power of Forgiveness–
To Forgive means to exchange and give your old perception for a new perception.
The general paradigm is that most people believe that we are supposed to forgive because of our religious affiliation or anything like that, but here, I want to share why we NEED to forgive for our own sake so we can claim our power back and redeem ourselves regardless of the action, or the event.
Similarly, the event or the snake bite doesn’t kill or make us stuck from our past-but it’s us holding ourselves unto our own perception and interpretation of the events. So that’s why we want to release that perception, whatever that is, that is Not helping, we need to release it so that, it doesn’t infect our blood like the venom.
Let us review together and understand the phenomenon of holding on to the blockages of the past. Here the video with deeper explanation.
For the most part, there are two levels where people hold onto the energies of the past.
For one, if we‘re in relationship, there will be miscommunication, and betrayals, and so much more.
That comes from the feeling of being hurt- where we feel that- we’ve been wronged in some way, shape or form. We feel frustrated, angry then, toward that person, sometimes it elevates to resentment, blame.
That happens to all of us.
Here’s what to be aware of at that point- we are stuck in that energy.
We are turning around and circling into that circular energy that is toxic like the venom of the green mamba.
Just to bring it to consciousness-we are without doubt in the victim energy when we feel wronged, hurt, or resentful – In that victim energy we’re NOT resourceful and we are holding ourselves back.
This is when forgiveness is needed; very simple, it doesn’t change the event, but in forgiving you are creating a new relationship with what happened with the event and therefore you are creating a new relationship with your past.
You are giving away that old perception for a new perception- you are redeeming yourself.
Forgiveness is an act of redemption.
According to the merriam webster dictionary to redeem means to change for the better-modification of Latin redimere, from re-, red- re- + emere to take, buy
: to free from what distresses or harms: such as
a : to free from captivity by payment of ransom
b : to extricate from or help to overcome something detrimental
c : to release from blame or debt : clear
d : to free from the consequences of sin
Forgiveness is allowing you to start a new.
So, the question becomes what are you redeeming and what are you buying back?
By releasing that stuck energy, you are renewing yourself, by giving that old perception for the new- you are redeeming yourself.
In that sense-Forgiveness makes all things new.
It’s NOT whether or not, we should forgive or not- the real question is to understand that it’s a principle and a fact. Like gravity, you can pretend to ignore it or you can acknowledge it and use it to your advantage, own it yourself and claim it.
Just in case you find yourself saying that you do NOT need to forgive, or that you don’t have any trauma from the past, I would like to caution you that as long as you’ve had interaction with human beings you would need to include this practice as something frequent enough.
Why this matter to you?
Without forgiveness we get trapped with dark energies that keep us fixed and make more matter like. The more focus we are on those dark energies the “heavier”; the more matter we are and the harder it is move for our future visions or goals.
The lighter you are, the faster you can move while when we are on the blame and Victim vibration, we are focused and more particles like as in matter: because we are focus on one thing- me, myself and I.
When you forgive you are expanding your core vision- you come to change the perception that what happened is bigger than your ego.
In that way you are expanding your vision, your energy field.
Let me repeat this- Forgiving doesn’t delete the past, but forgiving will heal you and allow you to create the future all new again.
The second way that we get stuck in the past, is when we were expecting some events to occur, some goals to be met, but they didn’t happen and we get disappointed.
This event necessarily wouldn’t have to have someone involved, it could have been a goal you wanted to achieve that you didn’t accomplish; so you get disappointed; or sometimes we get to blame ourselves- By feeling guilty into something we were expecting to be able to do but that we didn’t do -so we get into this negative circle.
In fact, so many successes are being self-sabotages because of these energies of self-doubt, blame, guilt, which flow into worthiness and self-esteem later on.
Regardless of the emotion, the reality is this-
You cannot change the event that happened but as you learn to forgive, you are creating a new relationship with the event and your past.
As you create that new perception from your past, you are simultaneously creating a new relationship with the past, and from that you are transforming the energy associated to that event, and as you do that, you are changing yourself and you are freeing yourself to build your future anew again.
When you forgive what you cannot forget -It creates a “new” way to remember- And from that act you are allowing yourself to change your perception relative to the event-
That’s where wisdom is built-we change the emotional charge of the memories of our past and through that we are moving into a new future.
How do we that in reality?
Step 1-Realise that events do not define you.
You cannot give your emotional energy to that event anymore.
When you are angry or resentful toward someone/something, you are giving part of your life to that person.
Ask yourself if that person merit your attention and your whole spirit enough in such a way that you are willing to waste part of your life in that non- resourceful energy of victimhood, angst, accusation, blame.
That same question can be asked if it was guilt or blame.
The younger you, or the less wise you (that has grown and know better now)- does it deserve that you waste your time in trying to correct it?
Just pause and acknowledge and say- I AM SORRY.
Step2- you can decide who you’re going to be and how you’re going to be.
When you forgive, you are claiming the freedom and the authority that you are more than any event, circumstances or anybody actions toward you. You are claiming your wholeness.
In that space, what turns the energy is you asking the question: what can I learn from this?
What capacity can I develop with what happened?
Every one of us has had hard things in our lives, the power of forgiveness liberates us from those hard things, it doesn’t change what happened to us, but forgiveness allows us to transmute the relationship to what occurred to us and by means of that we increased our capacity to hold more, be more and have more and do more, and then we are elevated and finally we are freed.
It’s a way of bringing healing to any part of us that is out of alignment.
As I was reflecting on the redemptive power of this practice, I got reminded of a practice that I had used years ago and it did help me- and it’s in regard to Self-forgiveness-
It’s also a practice called ho’oponopono- that is very powerful. A four-step process.
By repeating a mantra- I’m sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, thank you.
It’s a practice that is powerful as well.
Basically- it was a self-cleansing and connection to the bigger you. I added some context
I’m sorry it wasn’t my intent to harm you or punish you,
I didn’t know any better -Please forgive me,
I love you from all my heart.
Thank you for allowing me to notice-
I wanted to quickly provide couple more resources
Another preeminent teacher that helped healed many people is Byron Katie– her process is called
Specifically. The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround.
The four questions are:
1-Is it true?
2-Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3-How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4-Who would you be without the thought?
The next step of The Work, the turnaround, is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you have believed.
Another teacher, that has helped thousands is Hale Dwoskin(who learned with Lester Levenson) through the Sedona Method.
From their own words-
“There are three ways to approach the process of releasing, and they all lead to the same result: liberating your natural ability to let go of any unwanted emotion on the spot, and allowing some of the suppressed energy in your subconscious to dissipate.
The first way is by choosing to let go of the unwanted feeling. The second way is to welcome the feeling, to allow the emotion just to be. The third way is to dive into the very core of the emotion.”
Stay tuned next week, we’ll be learning with another powerful practice that can free you to the next level as you work toward achieving your vision.
Now you can just go and enjoy the live version .
We reviewed in the previous post How to amplify your vision. If you didn’t see it yet, we got a lot of positive feedback you might want to have a look here.
Today, we’re going to understand and review how to ignite, or spark again the fire anytime that vision fades away.
Why is that relevant to you?
There’s a real secret that throws out of balance most people. I promised, if you apply that one secret, that will change your life forever. It’s a promise.
There will be difficulties on the road; and some days will be cake walk, some days will be more challenging, and the best way to keep the vision alive is to ignite it with your why.
We’ll review why is that.You can check the video here as well.
In the end, I will share my why, if that can serve you and maybe inspire you to affirm, confirm your why.
First let remind ourselves of two principles we discussed last time.
The concept that humans are electromagnetic fields, emitting and receiving frequencies and vibration in/out into the field.
We are creating field around us and as within us- Albert Einstein demystified the relationship between matter and field with the new paradigm about the primacy of the field on matter (not matter having primacy on the field).
It’s well explained on the video here.
The second concept that we reviewed was the concept of emotions-
Emotions are on/off switches. It’s a simple concept that we overlook most of the time.
But if we can grasp the idea that our emotions are either off or on, it’s an empowering thought to realize that we are either happy, or sad, or angry etc.…
In other words, we cannot be happy and sad at the same time.
That seem obvious, but the reality of understanding this principle make you realized that at any moment we are feeling a certain feeling- and we cannot play ostrich because it’s very distinct feeling – a positive and empowering feeling or a disempowering and negative feeling- Which one would you rather be?
Again, here just to clear, I’m advocating to be always positive or always negative but since emotions are indicators it’s important to be aware of them as they dictate the vibration we’re in.
Now let’s jump on the secret I want to share.
Why is it a secret? Because most people even if they know about it, they don’t know the power of the principles.
When we are clear about our vision, it’s a huge step forward and a victory first step.
The trick about the way our brain is wired is that, as we get clear with our vision, our brain is trained by default for us to find out what’s missing to get that vision. (like an airplane auto adjusting to get to destination). So, our brain is wired and trained for survival to always look at what’s is missing.
However, here’s the secret- We need to move right back and control our focus to what we have (despite what we want to achieve).
That’s very tricky BUT this where almost all of us daily lose the terrain on this subtle detail.
As we exercise our intention- we need to take inventory of where we want to go Yet we need to REMEMBER what we have.
Why? Because what we have is our base; it’s the foundation on which we build what is yet to be manifested. We need to come from that place of creation and creativity to become more, to do more and ultimate to have more.
That’s the million Dollars secret that is simple but very powerful.
One example that I could give is let’s say if one of my resolution was to lose 20LBS this year, and so far, I have lost let’s say 3 LBS; our brain is wired in such way that we want to look at how to lose the remaining 17LBS; in a sense we’re looking and focusing on what we don’t have yet.
The correct action is to notice that and right away tune your vibration- be in a joy mode and acknowledge that you have lost already 3 LBS. come from that place of acknowledging emotionally even though mentally you know you have more to go.
What that does, that switch, make you want to lose more weight, because you are building from a place of joy and what you have. Rather than being a struggle a “fight” and say, 17LBs of wow etc.…
This is a simple example to illustrate my point about taking control of our intention and focus.
Make sure to Not vibrate from the “lack”- the switch is key- ultimately, your brain is showing what you don’t have- it’s telling us we don’t have it.
In fact, one quote that is a different perspective is from Neale Donald Walsh- “Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe”- Neale Donald Walsh.
I’m curious to read your definition of gratitude-Would you share below what is your definition of gratitude?
Now let’s transition to the second big piece of today’s topic on how to ignite our vision when it fades away.
The easy button answer is -Connect to Your WHY.
I was at conference over a decade ago, and I heard John Maxwell shares the metaphor that there are two important days in one’s life-
The day they are born and the day one’s find out what they are born for. That was a life changing moment for me at that moment as I was in a place of soul searching and I was lost.
Now in hindsight, I see the power of that still mainly because your vision and you why are interrelated and connected.
As we discussed about field- I would say that your why is the governing field energy of our motivations and actions.
If the field govern matter, we better sure that our why is clear and coherent as well.
So, the simple answer is to ask yourself-
Why your vision is important to you?
When you find that, it becomes a pull, No longer a push. Everyday becomes a riveting fulfilling and meaningful day.
As yourself why you want this vision manifest?
Keep asking deeper (five levels of why like a toddler whom would ask question until sunset) until you get to the point of answer that link you back to contribution to people, humanity. For the main reason that regardless of what you believe, you are here in human from in this plane and your contribution must relate to humanity otherwise there’s no reason to be here in this form.
I explain more on that in the video if you want to understand this perspective.
In many cases, your why is in the vicinity of your purpose.
The truth is that what you don’t use, you lose.
This not mere talk, in fact in cellular biology there a phenomenon called-Apoptosis- natural death of a cell based on its non-activity.
That’s not an easy answer – There are lot of resources very helpful- One of the consultant that articulates very well this on the business level is Simon Sinek (Start with Why); he illustrates in his Ted Talk how leaders inspire action and companies. One of the best watched Ted talk of all time- I highly suggest to watch it if you haven’t yet.
There are two ways to get to that answer I found.
One way is to toward the positive and the pull- What excites you- Why?
The other way is to look at your past and ask yourself what is deep pain that always you wouldn’t wish on anybody else?
What is deep pain? From the past- You wish it wouldn’t happen-
Why is that important to you.
As you can see I can spend hours talking about this, but let me illustrate with my why, maybe it serves you to elaborate on yours?
My pain came from witnessing at young age in Mali, financial “limitations” that I saw percolated into people behavior, some into victim hood or renunciation.
At young age, I didn’t know what it was, but deep down inside me, I always felt that there was more to life than what I was experiencing, and in way- I inherently knew that there’s something bigger than I could see. I just could feel it.
So, it pains me to see people with elephant might and strength to run away from small cat like if they felt they were little mice themselves.
That’s a pain that up today drives me- where- We feel like we don’t measure up sometimes- we feel sometimes that we don’t deserve to be here…it happens to all of us.
In fact, part of my journey and revelation was for me to realize after travelling the world that it wasn’t only an African problem, or European problem or an American problem but that’s it’s a humanity problem. It’s that pain that I don’t wish to anybody led me into doing what I’m doing now.
On the other hand, what excites me is to see people light up; I get excited to see people in their passion and in their full power with integrity and grace.
This is my why in one sentence.
It’s To Activate People To Bring Out Their Genius, So that We can elevate together, built and transform our world.
Another way finally that I called the worth it test-
If you could time travel and get to your death bed and look back teaching your great grands kids the worth it lesson.
Would you be able to tell them, I’m glad I did, because those where the things that matter to me.
And it is still worth it.
Would you be happy to do even if it was for free?
Or if there was only one person that you impacted – would you still be fulfilled
What would happen if you serve only one person- would you think it was still worth it.
Make sure your why pass the worth it test.
I know it’s a lot of content today and I hope that serves you.
If you think this was useful. Please feel free to share this with people as I would want you to join me in my why😊
Next week is exciting as we start to build on the concept of planning and managing with fears.
Are you ready? This is your moment-DARE TO SHINE
How To Amplify Your 2018 Vision?
Last week we discussed the importance to review and validate our vision despite the gifts of challenges that would come our way. If you didn’t get a chance to see it go here, we got great feedback.
Today we’ll discuss how to amplify the vision we are developing and why that matters to you in getting the results you are seeking.
To insist again on the element, we discussed two weeks ago- the importance of clarity in our vision.
Let me share a different perspective on clarity.
The clarity element is important if we look at our thoughts, ideas, intention and even ourselves as electromagnetic broadcaster field.
It’s not a secret that some specialized bio labs are able to measure the energy around our body itself, or put it blunt simple-
Haven’t you experienced interferences sometimes with electric wires?
We are emitting field of energies even though it’s not visible to the naked eye.
Why is that information relevant again?
It’s important to remind ourselves of this on a day/day basis because each frequency dictates different energies that we tune into and therefore provide different results. Like a radio receiver-emitter tune into different channel based on the frequency we choose.
Now let’s dig deeper into the amplification part.
So, if we understand the concept describe above, we understand that the clearer a vision is, the more focus it can become.
Now let’s dig into my favorite part, to make something clear means to make something understandable.
To make understandable to what? To our subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind doesn’t recognize the difference between a fact and a vision. It’s like a matrix it takes the form that we impress upon it. That’s why sometimes our dream feel so real while we’re asleep and that our conscious mind is asleep that it’s important to understand and pause on our subconscious mind.
In our case here, as discussed into an earlier post, our brain has what is called the RAS or reticular activating system (which allow us to pay attention to something that matter to us)- for example when you buy a new car you see it everywhere for some reasons- It’s not that more car are in the market all of the sudden the very next day, it just that your brain is paying more attention to it because it’s something that matters to you.
Also in those vein, our conscious mind is the CEO of our brain but it cannot store a lot of information for us to act on, that’s why lot of information are stored into the subconscious mind (like our abilities to walk etc..) are all encoded into us for us to be “unconsciously competent”..
Since our subconscious mind would play a major role in helping us “unconsciously” while we even sleep to get our vision amplified it’s important we understand what language the subconscious mind speaks.
The conscious mind is our rational mind while the subconscious mind is our Emotional Mind.
You can check the video option more detail here.
The subconscious speaks the language of emotions.
One of the fastest way to trigger emotion is through pictures (whether internal or external).
Is your vision well defined in such a way that you can picture yourself into doing, having, or being it?
The more specific you can be the more power to you.
As yourself the questions.
What do I want to experience? What do I want to do ?
What do I want to have?
Why do you want to have? To do?
Who do I want to experience with?
When do I want this to happen?
The idea of the question above here is to help you get clarity on your outcome.
CLEAR OUTCOME is what Napoleon Hill call a DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE.
Hopefully the two quotes below help you dig further.
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” Buckminster Fuller
“The Secret of Change Is to Focus All of Your Energy, Not on Fighting the Old, But on Building the New.”Socrates.
As we get clear on our outcome, the next step is to pay attention to what’s working.
What am feeling? How is my emotional level? What results am I getting?
We got to be aware of our internal state, how you are feeling at any given time- because an emotion is a matrix of sensation in the body on which we attach label to.
The secret to remember is that emotions are on-off switches- in other words we either feel the emotion or we don’t. We are either associated to it or we are disassociated.
On top being clear on the pictures (internal or external), the tonality of our internal dialogue also can help amplify the emotion we are seeking. WHEN WE TALK TO OURSELVES, we talk to our head, with a tone voices, which varies from place to place and time to times.
So to amplify your vision, clarify the pictures and spiced up the emotions… that will lead us to the next step that will discuss next week. Step into your why-
Why this vision is important to you?
I’ll share with you a great resource as well for people that want to deepen their clarity.
Please post below your comments
Are you ready?
This is Your Moment & Dare To Shine
PS:Don’t forget if you prefer video,right here- reader’s digest summary just 10 minutes.
DO YOU WANT MAGIC PILL AGAINST FAILURE?
The First best kept secret is to have the best insurance against it…
We were supposed to review how to amplify our vision and dreams this week and I got knock down by a bad flu which is why this is getting to you later this week than usually… and guess what?
I realized that it’s third week of January almost last week of January that’s about when according to statistics a lot of people give up on their news year resolution.
So, I figure this was the best gift that life and nature threw at me… why not share some of the ninja mind tricks of the legends.
HOW DO LEGENDS & MASTER’S TRANSMUTE SETBACKS/FAILURES INTO GOLD MINES?
That’s our topic this week…
One thing that any success, dream building, vision achieving, have in common is setbacks, obstacles, or sometimes confused by some as “failures” that in the end of this section- I hope we will agree to put that word in the closet and evolve our lexicon.
Since It’s an important part of it, hope you are okay for us to discuss that this week.
I briefly discuss touch upon this in a different context month ago here… (CHAMPIONS ARE MASTERS AT FAILING FORWARD).
In fact, IF there was a skill that create the huge divide between the average and the legends it’s this:
Now you might have heard about what I just shared or maybe a version of it… But I’m sharing in today’s video, is a different vantage point that is more holistic whether you are a high performer, agnostic, scientist, marketers or any field.
It’s very simple- In my accounts- I like to start with one of my all-time favorite ninja -Jedi mind trick quote-“World class understand that “failure” are just learning steps towards their desire results.”
In fact, the word failure doesn’t exist in their mind-it’s all feedback, learning toward their ultimate goals.
If there’s something that cannot be substituted with anything in champions, it’s this aptitude they have developed.
They have embraced the word “fail forward”. In fact, the smartest ones, fail fast so they can get over that phase or stage of development.
Every Adversity carries with it the seeds equal of a greater benefit- Napoleon Hill.
This was democratized in think and grow rich over eighty years ago.
The reason I like this quote is because, it’s the root of many studies in many fields we see today (sport psychology, social sciences, high performance, organization behaviors etc.…), validating this somehow seemingly simplistic or philosophical view of transmuting adversity into winning rather I want to emphasize indeed the power of the potency of the quote for the initiates one.
Let’s dig deeper and fast forward 2006 well know and renown Ph D. researcher Carol Dweck from Stanford University wrote an award-winning book for “parenting-business-relationship-school” called Mindset, The New psychology of success “How we can learn to fulfill our potential” …
In this book that I highly recommend, she discusses her findings- in the end she “finds” that there are two mindsets- the one that drives to excellence and the one that impedes it (especially since childhood).
The good news in her findings is that the success mindset can be trained. Or the way she called it is the Growth mindset which is in opposite is the “fixed” mindset.
Fixed mindset is a less flexible approach to project, execution while it’s been encoded in this mindset, lot deterministic beliefs that are reflected in behaviors like you have such talent for this, you are so good at this and so on and so forth-That seemingly encouraging reinforcements to our children can be impeding in the long run because the “individual” identity is being pushed. That become a real challenge when for example the child grows up and wakes up and realized that “realities/results” is Not matching up the earlier programing; results are damaging. The adult or child self-confidence goes down and the less effort is exercised by that person.
While in the opposite the growth mindset praises the effort; praise the opportunity for standing up and trying again- in the end that child, that organization has fostered a winning formula for life and template that would last generations and decade to follow.
This is high level summary of that book, but I do hope you buy and read it as she has many studies and experiments that goes beyond my point here.
This book couldn’t codify better Napoleon Hill paradigm,
It’s all about learning.
In fact, let me take a bigger step and say in a bolder way- (as it is the theme that I’m stepping into this year). “No One is ever defeated until the time you accept defeat as result.”
This is not philosophy or psychology but a bold proposition rooted more toward the next point I want to make. When one succumbs to defeat, in my mind it’s a blasphemy to life itself.
Let’s pause here for a second -Take deep breathe- another one
Could you feel the oxygen running into your lungs?
No one on earth has given you that power- So for that reason- no human definition can supersede the idea that you are a winner already with that breathe and life in you- As far I see, no one is failure, no acts or behavior can define your being as a failure.
Now, please don’t quote me wrong-As a high performer, I’m NOT advocating complacency, but rather an inherent confidence builder in knowing that as long there’s any life on earth still in us no matter the age, the circumstances we still have that power that Napoleon Hill talks about to transmute any adversity into a winning situation if we look for those seeds.
In other words, any setback is just another step to your next level.
In fact, I’m not even sure we should use the word setbacks. That means we are looking at results in a linear way or into a Newtonian model based reality of the world, which works for a materialistic limited vantage point of the world.
But with quantum physics breakthrough we now understand the non-deterministic model of the world- success is NOT linear.
Every step is just another opportunity to get better.
Let’s put it this way, as shared earlier, to grow muscle and get stronger, we need to use weight “against” our muscle so they can grow stronger.
I called it the growth paradox ™- which I explain to my clients in more depth. It’s a language use by life itself for us to assert which that we want to create.
If we could instantly create with any thought, fear, we had in mind, the world would be crowded and it would be a crazy jungle to live in maybe, as our childhood fear mixed with some adults wants would coexist. That’s a fantasy that is up for a grab for our next evolution as we master to use our attention and intention properly.
Let’s face it…Most of us cannot control our own mindshare with today’s attention-grabbing economy. So, if we could master our mindshare and influence ourselves our realities would be much different.
As we learn to exercise the power for life given to us- which is META COGNITION, we learn to transmute adversity into winning step (Stay tuned for more in the coming weeks).
Without going into the deeper rabbit hole- I want to end with this.
“NO ONE IS READY FOR A THING UNTIL YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN ACQUIRE IT OR GET IT” …
Failures are stepping stones that build us into believing more into ourselves. The experiences,
The trial and tribulations are helping us to get clear into what matter to us.
Until we become clear about what matter to us, we won’t know what is the “end” game.
Knowing that end game is the ultimate game changer. If you enjoyed the reading here, feel free to check the video where I share a slight different angle here.
Next week we will dig deeper on how to amplify the vision.