DO YOU WANT MAGIC PILL AGAINST FAILURE?
The First best kept secret is to have the best insurance against it…
We were supposed to review how to amplify our vision and dreams this week and I got knock down by a bad flu which is why this is getting to you later this week than usually… and guess what?
I realized that it’s third week of January almost last week of January that’s about when according to statistics a lot of people give up on their news year resolution.
So, I figure this was the best gift that life and nature threw at me… why not share some of the ninja mind tricks of the legends.
HOW DO LEGENDS & MASTER’S TRANSMUTE SETBACKS/FAILURES INTO GOLD MINES?
That’s our topic this week…
One thing that any success, dream building, vision achieving, have in common is setbacks, obstacles, or sometimes confused by some as “failures” that in the end of this section- I hope we will agree to put that word in the closet and evolve our lexicon.
Since It’s an important part of it, hope you are okay for us to discuss that this week.
I briefly discuss touch upon this in a different context month ago here… (CHAMPIONS ARE MASTERS AT FAILING FORWARD).
In fact, IF there was a skill that create the huge divide between the average and the legends it’s this:
Now you might have heard about what I just shared or maybe a version of it… But I’m sharing in today’s video, is a different vantage point that is more holistic whether you are a high performer, agnostic, scientist, marketers or any field.
It’s very simple- In my accounts- I like to start with one of my all-time favorite ninja -Jedi mind trick quote-“World class understand that “failure” are just learning steps towards their desire results.”
In fact, the word failure doesn’t exist in their mind-it’s all feedback, learning toward their ultimate goals.
If there’s something that cannot be substituted with anything in champions, it’s this aptitude they have developed.
They have embraced the word “fail forward”. In fact, the smartest ones, fail fast so they can get over that phase or stage of development.
Every Adversity carries with it the seeds equal of a greater benefit- Napoleon Hill.
This was democratized in think and grow rich over eighty years ago.
The reason I like this quote is because, it’s the root of many studies in many fields we see today (sport psychology, social sciences, high performance, organization behaviors etc.…), validating this somehow seemingly simplistic or philosophical view of transmuting adversity into winning rather I want to emphasize indeed the power of the potency of the quote for the initiates one.
Let’s dig deeper and fast forward 2006 well know and renown Ph D. researcher Carol Dweck from Stanford University wrote an award-winning book for “parenting-business-relationship-school” called Mindset, The New psychology of success “How we can learn to fulfill our potential” …
In this book that I highly recommend, she discusses her findings- in the end she “finds” that there are two mindsets- the one that drives to excellence and the one that impedes it (especially since childhood).
The good news in her findings is that the success mindset can be trained. Or the way she called it is the Growth mindset which is in opposite is the “fixed” mindset.
Fixed mindset is a less flexible approach to project, execution while it’s been encoded in this mindset, lot deterministic beliefs that are reflected in behaviors like you have such talent for this, you are so good at this and so on and so forth-That seemingly encouraging reinforcements to our children can be impeding in the long run because the “individual” identity is being pushed. That become a real challenge when for example the child grows up and wakes up and realized that “realities/results” is Not matching up the earlier programing; results are damaging. The adult or child self-confidence goes down and the less effort is exercised by that person.
While in the opposite the growth mindset praises the effort; praise the opportunity for standing up and trying again- in the end that child, that organization has fostered a winning formula for life and template that would last generations and decade to follow.
This is high level summary of that book, but I do hope you buy and read it as she has many studies and experiments that goes beyond my point here.
This book couldn’t codify better Napoleon Hill paradigm,
It’s all about learning.
In fact, let me take a bigger step and say in a bolder way- (as it is the theme that I’m stepping into this year). “No One is ever defeated until the time you accept defeat as result.”
This is not philosophy or psychology but a bold proposition rooted more toward the next point I want to make. When one succumbs to defeat, in my mind it’s a blasphemy to life itself.
Let’s pause here for a second -Take deep breathe- another one
Could you feel the oxygen running into your lungs?
No one on earth has given you that power- So for that reason- no human definition can supersede the idea that you are a winner already with that breathe and life in you- As far I see, no one is failure, no acts or behavior can define your being as a failure.
Now, please don’t quote me wrong-As a high performer, I’m NOT advocating complacency, but rather an inherent confidence builder in knowing that as long there’s any life on earth still in us no matter the age, the circumstances we still have that power that Napoleon Hill talks about to transmute any adversity into a winning situation if we look for those seeds.
In other words, any setback is just another step to your next level.
In fact, I’m not even sure we should use the word setbacks. That means we are looking at results in a linear way or into a Newtonian model based reality of the world, which works for a materialistic limited vantage point of the world.
But with quantum physics breakthrough we now understand the non-deterministic model of the world- success is NOT linear.
Every step is just another opportunity to get better.
Let’s put it this way, as shared earlier, to grow muscle and get stronger, we need to use weight “against” our muscle so they can grow stronger.
I called it the growth paradox ™- which I explain to my clients in more depth. It’s a language use by life itself for us to assert which that we want to create.
If we could instantly create with any thought, fear, we had in mind, the world would be crowded and it would be a crazy jungle to live in maybe, as our childhood fear mixed with some adults wants would coexist. That’s a fantasy that is up for a grab for our next evolution as we master to use our attention and intention properly.
Let’s face it…Most of us cannot control our own mindshare with today’s attention-grabbing economy. So, if we could master our mindshare and influence ourselves our realities would be much different.
As we learn to exercise the power for life given to us- which is META COGNITION, we learn to transmute adversity into winning step (Stay tuned for more in the coming weeks).
Without going into the deeper rabbit hole- I want to end with this.
“NO ONE IS READY FOR A THING UNTIL YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN ACQUIRE IT OR GET IT” …
Failures are stepping stones that build us into believing more into ourselves. The experiences,
The trial and tribulations are helping us to get clear into what matter to us.
Until we become clear about what matter to us, we won’t know what is the “end” game.
Knowing that end game is the ultimate game changer. If you enjoyed the reading here, feel free to check the video where I share a slight different angle here.
Next week we will dig deeper on how to amplify the vision.