In the end, I will share my why, if that can serve you and maybe inspire you to affirm, confirm your why.
First let remind ourselves of two principles we discussed last time.
The concept that humans are electromagnetic fields, emitting and receiving frequencies and vibration in/out into the field.
We are creating field around us and as within us- Albert Einstein demystified the relationship between matter and field with the new paradigm about the primacy of the field on matter (not matter having primacy on the field).
It’s well explained on the video here.
The second concept that we reviewed was the concept of emotions-
Emotions are on/off switches. It’s a simple concept that we overlook most of the time.
But if we can grasp the idea that our emotions are either off or on, it’s an empowering thought to realize that we are either happy, or sad, or angry etc.…
In other words, we cannot be happy and sad at the same time.
That seem obvious, but the reality of understanding this principle make you realized that at any moment we are feeling a certain feeling- and we cannot play ostrich because it’s very distinct feeling – a positive and empowering feeling or a disempowering and negative feeling- Which one would you rather be?
Again, here just to clear, I’m advocating to be always positive or always negative but since emotions are indicators it’s important to be aware of them as they dictate the vibration we’re in.
Now let’s jump on the secret I want to share.
Why is it a secret? Because most people even if they know about it, they don’t know the power of the principles.
When we are clear about our vision, it’s a huge step forward and a victory first step.
The trick about the way our brain is wired is that, as we get clear with our vision, our brain is trained by default for us to find out what’s missing to get that vision. (like an airplane auto adjusting to get to destination). So, our brain is wired and trained for survival to always look at what’s is missing.
However, here’s the secret- We need to move right back and control our focus to what we have (despite what we want to achieve).
That’s very tricky BUT this where almost all of us daily lose the terrain on this subtle detail.
As we exercise our intention- we need to take inventory of where we want to go Yet we need to REMEMBER what we have.
Why? Because what we have is our base; it’s the foundation on which we build what is yet to be manifested. We need to come from that place of creation and creativity to become more, to do more and ultimate to have more.
That’s the million Dollars secret that is simple but very powerful.
One example that I could give is let’s say if one of my resolution was to lose 20LBS this year, and so far, I have lost let’s say 3 LBS; our brain is wired in such way that we want to look at how to lose the remaining 17LBS; in a sense we’re looking and focusing on what we don’t have yet.
The correct action is to notice that and right away tune your vibration- be in a joy mode and acknowledge that you have lost already 3 LBS. come from that place of acknowledging emotionally even though mentally you know you have more to go.
What that does, that switch, make you want to lose more weight, because you are building from a place of joy and what you have. Rather than being a struggle a “fight” and say, 17LBs of wow etc.…
This is a simple example to illustrate my point about taking control of our intention and focus.
Make sure to Not vibrate from the “lack”- the switch is key- ultimately, your brain is showing what you don’t have- it’s telling us we don’t have it.
In fact, one quote that is a different perspective is from Neale Donald Walsh- “Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe”- Neale Donald Walsh.
I’m curious to read your definition of gratitude-Would you share below what is your definition of gratitude?
Now let’s transition to the second big piece of today’s topic on how to ignite our vision when it fades away.
The easy button answer is -Connect to Your WHY.
I was at conference over a decade ago, and I heard John Maxwell shares the metaphor that there are two important days in one’s life-
The day they are born and the day one’s find out what they are born for. That was a life changing moment for me at that moment as I was in a place of soul searching and I was lost.
Now in hindsight, I see the power of that still mainly because your vision and you why are interrelated and connected.
As we discussed about field- I would say that your why is the governing field energy of our motivations and actions.
If the field govern matter, we better sure that our why is clear and coherent as well.
So, the simple answer is to ask yourself-
Why your vision is important to you?
When you find that, it becomes a pull, No longer a push. Everyday becomes a riveting fulfilling and meaningful day.
As yourself why you want this vision manifest?
Keep asking deeper (five levels of why like a toddler whom would ask question until sunset) until you get to the point of answer that link you back to contribution to people, humanity. For the main reason that regardless of what you believe, you are here in human from in this plane and your contribution must relate to humanity otherwise there’s no reason to be here in this form.
In many cases, your why is in the vicinity of your purpose.
The truth is that what you don’t use, you lose.
This not mere talk, in fact in cellular biology there a phenomenon called-Apoptosis- natural death of a cell based on its non-activity.
That’s not an easy answer – There are lot of resources very helpful- One of the consultant that articulates very well this on the business level is Simon Sinek (Start with Why); he illustrates in his Ted Talk how leaders inspire action and companies. One of the best watched Ted talk of all time- I highly suggest to watch it if you haven’t yet.
There are two ways to get to that answer I found.
One way is to toward the positive and the pull- What excites you- Why?
The other way is to look at your past and ask yourself what is deep pain that always you wouldn’t wish on anybody else?
What is deep pain? From the past- You wish it wouldn’t happen-
Why is that important to you.
As you can see I can spend hours talking about this, but let me illustrate with my why, maybe it serves you to elaborate on yours?
My pain came from witnessing at young age in Mali, financial “limitations” that I saw percolated into people behavior, some into victim hood or renunciation.
At young age, I didn’t know what it was, but deep down inside me, I always felt that there was more to life than what I was experiencing, and in way- I inherently knew that there’s something bigger than I could see. I just could feel it.
So, it pains me to see people with elephant might and strength to run away from small cat like if they felt they were little mice themselves.
That’s a pain that up today drives me- where- We feel like we don’t measure up sometimes- we feel sometimes that we don’t deserve to be here…it happens to all of us.
In fact, part of my journey and revelation was for me to realize after travelling the world that it wasn’t only an African problem, or European problem or an American problem but that’s it’s a humanity problem. It’s that pain that I don’t wish to anybody led me into doing what I’m doing now.
On the other hand, what excites me is to see people light up; I get excited to see people in their passion and in their full power with integrity and grace.
This is my why in one sentence.
It’s To Activate People To Bring Out Their Genius, So that We can elevate together, built and transform our world.
Another way finally that I called the worth it test-
If you could time travel and get to your death bed and look back teaching your great grands kids the worth it lesson.
Would you be able to tell them, I’m glad I did, because those where the things that matter to me.
And it is still worth it.
Would you be happy to do even if it was for free?
Or if there was only one person that you impacted – would you still be fulfilled
What would happen if you serve only one person- would you think it was still worth it.
Make sure your why pass the worth it test.
I know it’s a lot of content today and I hope that serves you.
If you think this was useful. Please feel free to share this with people as I would want you to join me in my why😊
Next week is exciting as we start to build on the concept of planning and managing with fears.
Last week we discussed the importance to review and validate our vision despite the gifts of challenges that would come our way. If you didn’t get a chance to see it go here, we got great feedback.
Today we’ll discuss how to amplify the vision we are developing and why that matters to you in getting the results you are seeking.
To insist again on the element, we discussed two weeks ago- the importance of clarity in our vision.
Let me share a different perspective on clarity.
The clarity element is important if we look at our thoughts, ideas, intention and even ourselves as electromagnetic broadcaster field.
It’s not a secret that some specialized bio labs are able to measure the energy around our body itself, or put it blunt simple-
Haven’t you experienced interferences sometimes with electric wires?
We are emitting field of energies even though it’s not visible to the naked eye.
Why is that information relevant again?
It’s important to remind ourselves of this on a day/day basis because each frequency dictates different energies that we tune into and therefore provide different results. Like a radio receiver-emitter tune into different channel based on the frequency we choose.
Now let’s dig deeper into the amplification part.
So, if we understand the concept describe above, we understand that the clearer a vision is, the more focus it can become.
Now let’s dig into my favorite part, to make something clear means to make something understandable.
To make understandable to what? To our subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind doesn’t recognize the difference between a fact and a vision. It’s like a matrix it takes the form that we impress upon it. That’s why sometimes our dream feel so real while we’re asleep and that our conscious mind is asleep that it’s important to understand and pause on our subconscious mind.
In our case here, as discussed into an earlier post, our brain has what is called the RAS or reticular activating system (which allow us to pay attention to something that matter to us)- for example when you buy a new car you see it everywhere for some reasons- It’s not that more car are in the market all of the sudden the very next day, it just that your brain is paying more attention to it because it’s something that matters to you.
Also in those vein, our conscious mind is the CEO of our brain but it cannot store a lot of information for us to act on, that’s why lot of information are stored into the subconscious mind (like our abilities to walk etc..) are all encoded into us for us to be “unconsciously competent”..
Since our subconscious mind would play a major role in helping us “unconsciously” while we even sleep to get our vision amplified it’s important we understand what language the subconscious mind speaks.
The conscious mind is our rational mind while the subconscious mind is our Emotional Mind.
One of the fastest way to trigger emotion is through pictures (whether internal or external).
Is your vision well defined in such a way that you can picture yourself into doing, having, or being it?
The more specific you can be the more power to you.
As yourself the questions.
What do I want to experience? What do I want to do ?
What do I want to have?
Why do you want to have? To do?
Who do I want to experience with?
When do I want this to happen?
The idea of the question above here is to help you get clarity on your outcome.
CLEAR OUTCOME is what Napoleon Hill call a DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE.
Hopefully the two quotes below help you dig further.
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” Buckminster Fuller
“The Secret of Change Is to Focus All of Your Energy, Not on Fighting the Old, But on Building the New.”Socrates.
As we get clear on our outcome, the next step is to pay attention to what’s working.
What am feeling? How is my emotional level? What results am I getting?
We got to be aware of our internal state, how you are feeling at any given time- because an emotion is a matrix of sensation in the body on which we attach label to.
The secret to remember is that emotions are on-off switches- in other words we either feel the emotion or we don’t. We are either associated to it or we are disassociated.
On top being clear on the pictures (internal or external), the tonality of our internal dialogue also can help amplify the emotion we are seeking. WHEN WE TALK TO OURSELVES, we talk to our head, with a tone voices, which varies from place to place and time to times.
So to amplify your vision, clarify the pictures and spiced up the emotions… that will lead us to the next step that will discuss next week. Step into your why-
Why this vision is important to you?
I’ll share with you a great resource as well for people that want to deepen their clarity.
One thing that any success, dream building, vision achieving, have in common is setbacks, obstacles, or sometimes confused by some as “failures” that in the end of this section- I hope we will agree to put that word in the closet and evolve our lexicon.
Since It’s an important part of it, hope you are okay for us to discuss that this week.
I briefly discuss touch upon this in a different context month ago here… (CHAMPIONS ARE MASTERS AT FAILING FORWARD).
In fact, IF there was a skill that create the huge divide between the average and the legends it’s this:
Now you might have heard about what I just shared or maybe a version of it… But I’m sharing in today’s video,is a different vantage point that is more holistic whether you are a high performer, agnostic, scientist, marketers or any field.
It’s very simple- In my accounts- I like to start with one of my all-time favorite ninja -Jedi mind trick quote-“World class understand that “failure” are just learning steps towards their desire results.”
In fact, the word failure doesn’t exist in their mind-it’s all feedback, learning toward their ultimate goals.
If there’s something that cannot be substituted with anything in champions, it’s this aptitude they have developed.
They have embraced the word “fail forward”. In fact, the smartest ones, fail fast so they can get over that phase or stage of development.
Every Adversity carries with it the seeds equal of a greater benefit- Napoleon Hill.
This was democratized in think and grow rich over eighty years ago.
The reason I like this quote is because, it’s the root of many studies in many fields we see today (sport psychology, social sciences, high performance, organization behaviors etc.…), validating this somehow seemingly simplistic or philosophical view of transmuting adversity into winning rather I want to emphasize indeed the power of the potency of the quote for the initiates one.
Let’s dig deeper and fast forward 2006 well know and renown Ph D. researcher Carol Dweck from Stanford University wrote an award-winning book for “parenting-business-relationship-school” called Mindset, The New psychology of success “How we can learn to fulfill our potential” …
In this book that I highly recommend, she discusses her findings- in the end she “finds” that there are two mindsets- the one that drives to excellence and the one that impedes it (especially since childhood).
The good news in her findings is that the success mindset can be trained. Or the way she called it is the Growth mindset which is in opposite is the “fixed” mindset.
Fixed mindset is a less flexible approach to project, execution while it’s been encoded in this mindset, lot deterministic beliefs that are reflected in behaviors like you have such talent for this, you are so good at this and so on and so forth-That seemingly encouraging reinforcements to our children can be impeding in the long run because the “individual” identity is being pushed. That become a real challenge when for example the child grows up and wakes up and realized that “realities/results” is Not matching up the earlier programing; results are damaging. The adult or child self-confidence goes down and the less effort is exercised by that person.
While in the opposite the growth mindset praises the effort; praise the opportunity for standing up and trying again- in the end that child, that organization has fostered a winning formula for life and template that would last generations and decade to follow.
This is high level summary of that book, but I do hope you buy and read it as she has many studies and experiments that goes beyond my point here.
This book couldn’t codify better Napoleon Hill paradigm,
It’s all about learning.
In fact, let me take a bigger step and say in a bolder way- (as it is the theme that I’m stepping into this year). “No One is ever defeated until the time you accept defeat as result.”
This is not philosophy or psychology but a bold proposition rooted more toward the next point I want to make. When one succumbs to defeat, in my mind it’s a blasphemy to life itself.
Let’s pause here for a second -Take deep breathe- another one
Could you feel the oxygen running into your lungs?
No one on earth has given you that power- So for that reason- no human definition can supersede the idea that you are a winner already with that breathe and life in you- As far I see, no one is failure, no acts or behavior can define your being as a failure.
Now, please don’t quote me wrong-As a high performer, I’m NOT advocating complacency, but rather an inherent confidence builder in knowing that as long there’s any life on earth still in us no matter the age, the circumstances we still have that power that Napoleon Hill talks about to transmute any adversity into a winning situation if we look for those seeds.
In other words, any setback is just another step to your next level.
In fact, I’m not even sure we should use the word setbacks. That means we are looking at results in a linear way or into a Newtonian model based reality of the world, which works for a materialistic limited vantage point of the world.
But with quantum physics breakthrough we now understand the non-deterministic model of the world- success is NOT linear.
Every step is just another opportunity to get better.
Let’s put it this way, as shared earlier, to grow muscle and get stronger, we need to use weight “against” our muscle so they can grow stronger.
I called it the growth paradox ™- which I explain to my clients in more depth. It’s a language use by life itself for us to assert which that we want to create.
If we could instantly create with any thought, fear, we had in mind, the world would be crowded and it would be a crazy jungle to live in maybe, as our childhood fear mixed with some adults wants would coexist. That’s a fantasy that is up for a grab for our next evolution as we master to use our attention and intention properly.
Let’s face it…Most of us cannot control our own mindshare with today’s attention-grabbing economy. So, if we could master our mindshare and influence ourselves our realities would be much different.
As we learn to exercise the power for life given to us- which is META COGNITION, we learn to transmute adversity into winning step (Stay tuned for more in the coming weeks).
Without going into the deeper rabbit hole- I want to end with this.
“NO ONE IS READY FOR A THING UNTIL YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN ACQUIRE IT OR GET IT” …
Failures are stepping stones that build us into believing more into ourselves. The experiences,
The trial and tribulations are helping us to get clear into what matter to us.
Until we become clear about what matter to us, we won’t know what is the “end” game.
Knowing that end game is the ultimate game changer. If you enjoyed the reading here, feel free to check the video where I share a slight different angle here.
Next week we will dig deeper on how to amplify the vision.
As we explored sufficiently last week, we highlighted the value of having a vision, or a dream in a way that we need to be clear about what matter to us. If you want a quick refresh on the power of having a vision please check it out here.
Now the question that I get with clients is about clarity on what matters to them.
In other words, what I found in many literatures is the rhetoric “get crystal clear on your dreams, your goals, your vision and so on and so forth.”
It occurred to me that after talking to few clients-Getting that clarity was indeed the first real work and it is not always easy as one might think.
HOW TO GET CLEAR ON YOUR VISIONS & GOALS?
How Do you get clear on what matters to you?
It does seem like a trivia, but as you would see below the certainty that you’ll have after reading this. I figure I want to spend some time to help on this topic since this part of us owning our power is very important.
In fact, I have heard that there are two important days in someone life -The day you are born AND the day you find out what you are born for. That is usually extrapolated to one’s life purpose sometimes, and the reality is regardless of where this might apply (vision, dreams, purpose, goal, intention etc.…) the significance of getting the clarity of what matter to you is life transforming.
In the earlier post we reviewed the importance of having a vision. What I think is the best translation of that- is clearly the title- Are you clear on what matters to you?
The perspectives I’m going to share below will be helping you at any moment of doubt when you are looking for clarity in what matters to you.
First principle I Just want to reiterate,
what I found is that the process to create a vision is made easier when you are clear on what matters to you.
Now please note here two major components in what I’m sharing above- the concept of clarity and the concept of what matters the most to you. These two elements are critical elements to have your vision crystal clear.
Why don’t we start with the roots of what’s needed to be clear?
Clarity stem from Latin- claurus, which means to make it understandable; the attribute of what we’re looking to clarify is sharp, well defined, lucid and ultimately it permeates the quality of being coherent.
Clarity enables faster distinction; and faster distinction allows faster decision-making skills, faster decision skills allow freedom of choice, which provide more power.
So, if that is the case, we can say that clarity is the quality that allow a faster way to organize the content of the information you want to act on; which further allow for more coherence.
I want us to not miss this point above- the relationship between clarity and the power of decision.
Clarity and the power to be decisive are inextricably linked.
In his twenty-five years of research, Napoleon Hill (in Think and grow rich) finds out after studying the most successful people of his time that “Successful people have the ability to quickly make a decision and work on it while average people have harder time to decide and are slow to make a decision”.
Why is this relevant to you- it’s because of this simple fact that I eluded earlier.
The clearer you are about what matters to you, the more you are clear about what you want and who you are; In fact, that’s the secret sauce of the most successful in our planet- indeed – they are fanatic one way or another about that clarity on what matters to them (Whether it’s their dreams, their visions, BUT most importantly who they are and why it matters to them). They know what they are standing for and what are their boundaries; this all about that clarity and distinction.
I wanted to pause here, because this is NOT just anecdote, BUT it’s rooted in science as it’s been proven nowadays from social sciences and psychology.
We make decision based on our references- in one sentence there’s no such thing as objective decision- there’s only subjective decision- because we make decision based on what we know (whether conscious or unconscious).
This is why, the most successful people are quick to decide, because as shared earlier, the successful people are clear about what matters to them; and as we saw, earlier the clearer we are, the more decisive and fast we can be in our decisions.
So, it’s Not a secret that the successful people are quick to make decision because there are clear about what matters to them.
Let’s look at it from even a different further angle-Physics.
This is probably one of my favorite view point as the world #1 Human Engineer.
As we are all aware, we live in a world where everything is Energy; which means everything vibrates.
If everything vibrates, they all have their frequencies. That’s the law of vibration
Like tuning to different radio stations, allows us to access programs, we are always tuning in to different frequencies in our lives at each moment- because there are different frequencies.
In that way, our thoughts and our state are emitting a certain vibration based on our emotional states and the thoughts we carry.
Similarly, the precision needed from us on what we want is necessary due to the law of vibration.
The stronger the signal, the stronger the content, the further it can travel.
The more pronounced and distinct it is, the more it becomes understandable.
Our homework in this human experience is to train our attention, and metacognition so we can fully be exercising our gifts and ability of co-creating our realities.
For those reasons, the vision, goal, dream must be well defined, explicit, prominent, definite, distinct, precision. That’s What Napoleon Hill call as his number #1 findings in all the successful people principles-The definiteness of purpose.
Which is why the second principle is to be remembered- specificity is important due to the law of the vibration that permeates everything.
The third principle I want to emphasize is giving us the how and the why–
The second law that I wanted to share that is so IMPORTANT is the law of polarity or duality in this human experience. What that law suggests is that there are always two polarities, plus versus minus, low versus high etc.…
This law can be empowering or it can be enslaving us based on our awareness and our skills to exercise our metacognition. The Most important gift in our human experience is the ability for us to train our METACOGNITION capacity every day.
Why this matter to you? It’s because with polarization we can get clarity faster.
Learning the law of polarity allows you to gain clarity so quick.
With that law we can find out quickly our vision and or what matters to us.
Getting clear on the vision is NOT a simple task for most people because, we’re wired to notice what WE DO NO WANT so we can survive.
As we understand what we don’t want, we need to pivot on what we WANT; in this case the law of polarity invites us to connect through our heart via our head.
How clear are you on what matters?
The law of polarity allows us to tune into what we don’t like and what we love.
Theses to energies are the two extreme of the same-What would you love AND what do you hate or would like to see changed?
What would you love is the best question to get us connected to what get us most passionate- that question connects us to what brings us MORE life.
The idea is that we want to get polarized to find the pull and to create the distinction. Because our desires are possibilities seeking expression or function seeking performance.
So, we want to connect to our Desire (which comes from “Des ire”)- “Des” meaning coming from God or source-
Yes, The Buddhist or eastern philosophy shares that Desires are the sources of All our “suffering”.
I rather like to look at it from the perspective of connecting to source from a genuine perspective, where the desire is coming from a love intention rather than that just pride or gluttony or vain narcissistic.
Deep down if we truly connect to what matters to us, you are building the curriculum of your own growth for the next attainment of the better you.
As a side note this is why, therefore extreme situations and events have been memorable and they make it easier for people to be clear on what matters to them.
As people get strong emotions (whether positive or negative let’s say through trauma sometimes), they can draw strong boundaries.
That’s the case of Victor Frankl in man’ search for meaning, where in the death concentration camp he made a decision that what matters to him was to “live” and survive so he can tell the story and especially created the logo therapy sum up in the last frontier of human freedom- “The ability for human to choose their own attitude”.
We do not need to get into traumatic incidents to learn about what matters to us.
For example, early pioneer entrepreneurs- Bill Gates, Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Michael Dell, all these iconic billionaire and school dropout knew with clarity what matters to them; that’s why they could identify at a very young age their drive.
In fact, that’s why it takes Mid 40’s for a lot of men (or so called midlife crisis), because they are looking for clarity about what matters to them when they will be coming out of this life form and human experience- That’s the mortality drive.
Finally, I hope it made sense to see the importance of why and how to create clarity in our vision.
In the end let’s get some practical tools that could be used to help further this work.
Technic 1-Write down the vision, the goals, you want manifested-
The simple act of writing it down, helps embed it in our subconscious mind and we can always easily revisit it at will. In that way we’re freeing our mind power to not worry about memorizing it actively.
Technic 2- Polarize yourself with the two main questions-
What Would I love and What Do I hate (What would I love to see change).
In that way I want to share one technic I learn from Mary Morrissey as I was getting mentored by her- as she talks about testing your dreams or visions with five main questions
Does your vision give you more life?
Does it align with your core values?
Does it give you opportunity for growth?
Does it require help from multiple sources (beyond yourself)?
Will that dream benefit others as well?
I love these practical questions to “test” your visions when in doubt.
Technic 3– Eulogy Motivation-Begin with the end in Mind
Could you picture yourself during your memorial services people delivering an Eulogy for you?
What you want people to say about you- what you represented for them?
What did you help people become?
Technic 4- Mortality Motivation.
Imagine you have twenty hours to live and laying down on your death bed-
When you look back at your life- would be able to say- I did it my way? I would do ALL it again.
What would you die for
What would matter to me.
Another twist of that is to ask yourself if You had only twenty-four hours left to live would you prioritize what matters to you.
As Steve Jobs would say in his famous Stanford commencement speech at Stanford – “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart…
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new”
I don’t want to end this blog these with scary thoughts, as my intention is to provide tolls and insights that gives you more life; but the reality is that when we know the end we get more power as the how becomes built in based on the end.
What I really want to share here is how to intelligently ask and how to get clarity in your vision.
And I will end with this quote from MLK Jr.
“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”
So, let’s make sure that we keep revisiting what matters to us- it’s a verb after all. What matters to us evolve as we grow even though the core doesn’t change.
To prelude in the next share, we will explore how to further amplify that vision-one hint- Can you picture your vision?
This is NOT my opinion, it’s something I had experienced and I will share in the end what is the biggest secret that is missed by most people about this principle.
While most people fumble and spin their wheels in figuring out the HOW, they miss the main first important point- GET CLEAR ON WHAT REALLY MATTERS TO YOU FIRST.
From many fields, in different tones and terms through ages everybody has heard a variation of the importance of this principle I’m sure.
To start with the spiritual masters who have always shared this principle-“Without vision people perish” is not just a nice say but a proven principle that permeates through many disciplines.
A vision does Not have to be this grandiose effort or revelation we get only when we’re in trance or under a tree like legendary stories of Moses or Abraham have had.
A vision in nowadays term can be a goal, a dream, a purpose, an intention.
In fact to bring it closer to our times; Napoleon Hill who had studied proliferate leaders and impactful men of his generation for over 25 years had summarized it well in his book think and grow rich(a book that is accredited to have generated the most millionaires in History of mankind).
The first principle that all these successful had in common is The Definiteness of Purpose (backed up by a burning desire- which we will address at a later point) would say Napoleon Hill.
That’s definiteness of purpose is also what Stephen Covey would call – “START WITH & KEEP THE END in MIND” in his famous best seller book “The seven habits of Highly Effective people”.
Now, whether or not that you are spiritual or a business person, what is clear is that if you’ve ever used a GPS to navigate to get to a destination or a navigation tool in the like of a compass, knowing the north star is critical. In fact, that is the way airplanes get to their destination, by trial and error or constant adjustment (based on the end and destination).
For fiction lovers, the subtle illustration of this principle is the cat guidance to Alice in Wonderland in the famous book from Caroll Lewis in chap 6.
–“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where–” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
“–so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”
Now that that was an advice from a cat…😊
Now let’s see if you rather listen to science base facts, one of the best perspective that I got was year ago when I was studying neuro science.
The best way to explain this, is what is called in the part of our brain the Reticular activating system or R.A.S. A good way to explain the power of the RAS is to look at our own daily lives.
Have you ever noticed that when you get a new car or a new shirt? For some reason that new car seems to be everywhere or all the sudden?
Now what happened?
Did more of these cars appeared all of the sudden? Of course, NOT- The answer is that, WE’RE WIRED to Notice around us THINGS THAT MATTER TO US.
That’s what the Reticular activating system does for us human.
This is biology and science not just opinion, or philosophy.
THEREFORE, THIS IS WHY, WE MUST BE SO BE CLEAR ABOUT those things That matter to us.
As sad It is, most people spend most of the time in their lives planning and getting on their vacation that they would spend time getting clear on their year, month, or lives.
If we only knew the power of this principle I think we would teach these since kindergarten.
“Know what you want is a Maxime that should be printed in our forehead.
To apply this in a daily setting-
In fact, a good framework for that is the power of intention that is a very transformative practice whether we gather in business settings or in any settings getting clear on our purpose in any activities is what gives us power in the present.
A good book that helped me in this angle is the power of intentions by Wayne Dyer.
A practical approach to this is to always ask ourselves what is our intention-What is the purpose of this meeting what is our intention in this gathering? (Apparently, this a practice that the famous Oprah has in her closest circle).
I really wanted to spend more times on this as this is the foundation for everything else.
Because the first poignant point I wanted to make is that as human, our first function is to get crystal clear on what we want, and on what matter to us.
I love the reminder that Mary Morrissey shares- Everything is created twice (first in the mind then physically- we all know that, but NOT EVERYBODY KNOWS THE POWER of that).
Now, naturally, you would ask- what is the best way to intelligently formulate your desires and want?
The simple answer is to get a crystal-clear picture of what you want.
We’ll explore more in the next post but here are main steps that I use when I work with my clients.
Stay connected to your true self- by asking yourself-
2-What would I love? – Connect to that place of desire through love not from media, society, etc…
3-Would what I love expand me or constrict me? Make sure it’s expansive because every thought either constrict us or expand us by giving us more life.
4-Will this contribute to Humanity and make a difference?
We’ll explore more on the How in next post- stay tuned.
But as promised, here’s the secret that most people miss on the power of creating and getting clear on the vision.
IT’S a VERB- which means we need to practice it every day like we brush our teeth while most people do it once a year (new year resolution and don’t revisit it)
AND getting CRYSTAL CLEAR PICTURE is a differentiator because it BECOMES SPECIFIC and adhere to the law of specificity and even more it creates emotion that inherently move us to action- because pictures create emotion.
Are you keeping the main thing, your main thing?
One of the most powerful question I came across is this: What is the one thing that I have to do, in such a way that if I do it, it will make everything else easier or unnecessary Gary Keller
Champions understand, value and leverage the power of keeping it simple.
Masters and legends understand that mastery is achieved day in and day out, through practicing simple skills and improving them.
When it comes to simplicity, the average performers are always looking for the complex answers, when in fact masters know that the solutions lie into breaking down into simple steps.
One of the most brilliant minds of the last century who was able to understand and execute the most complicated issues Albert Einstein is well known to say- “Everything Should Be Made as Simple as Possible, But Not Simpler”, he even goes further “If you can’t explain it to a six-year-old, you don’t understand it yourself.”
In fact, what about one the biggest inventor as Leonardo Da Vinci said; “Simplicity, is the ultimate sophistication”, What about Henry David Thoreau “As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness”.
The power in being simple, thinking simple, acting simple is a secret aptitude that a lot of people are underestimating.
When he came back to Apple, to revitalize the company that it is Today-Steve Jobs the iconic CEO of Apple Inc. says this: “Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains”.
Even if you don’t want to move mountain, you probably want to be a high performer, or achieve your goals-guess what –simple is power-
It is not a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away at the inessentials.” Bruce Lee
It seems that we are drawn to learn and keep learning thinking that’s where we get our edge, until you come across this perspective-
“Knowledge is a process of piling up facts; wisdom lies in their simplification.” Martin H. Fischer.
That might seem too far distant, but William James ground it in such way that for him it’s very simple ““The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.”
Ending with a master is probably the best compliment we can look; from two angles Lao Tzu claim this
“I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures.” And “Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”.
If that doesn’t resonate with you, Hans Hoffman probability would when he simplifies by saying “
The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.
I love it even better as this drives it home for me- simple-The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of the non-essentials.
That similar to the point. Champions Keep the main, the main thing.
“I AM THE GREATEST, I AM THE CHAMPION OF THE WORLD” …
Those are the words of the legendary Boxer Muhamed Ali, when he was on his way to claim the throne of being the world champion.
It seems arrogant some people would say, maybe confidence some might say, or even “prophetic” for his devotees’ fans; the reality is no matter how you look at it, these were self-proclamation, incantation or affirmation from the greatest.
Incantation are the best way to improve your self-talk.
The average performer think that it is not necessary or it’s too new age, but science has proven the power of our subconscious in performance.
This is relevant because no matter who you are we do have some moment of self-doubts, hesitations, downtime and more. Self-talk is happening all the time no matter if you are conscious of it or not.
The real question is whether we are monitoring or not.
The world class do monitor it. Day in day out.
That’s how they are able to control that constant internal chatter. They leverage it as a strength.
Key question. Are you monitoring your self-talk?
Action tip: Look at your goals/dream; what is your self-talk towards these objectives?
It’s a myth that champions fight their fears or that they don’t have fears; even more, it’s an illusion for average performers to avoid their fears- The ultimate solution is to dance with the fears, so that it can be tamed.
A lot of literature highlight the fact that FEAR is false evidence appearing real, or that we should fight our fears. That strategy seems better when compared to the average performers who hide away from their fears and stay paralyzed with no actions, but it’s still not optimal.
The reality is that fear is a natural phenomenon for our survival; which means it’s natural and so therefore needs not to be denied but “optimized”.
How do you do that?
The first thing would be to acknowledge the natural aspect of it; Which gives champions the opportunity to be grounded.
In that grounding the champions find and anchored themselves into being present in the moment.
The idea is to acknowledge fear so it doesn’t have power over you. In fact, In my bestselling book
“The Winning Way that I co-wrote with Brian Tracy and colleagues” give a tip on how to cope with fear by just bringing it to our awareness and identifying.
When in it’s your skin and in your face, what’ s left is to own it and dance with it.
As we all agreed, avoiding it, is like playing ostrich which doesn’t help long term.