How the legend performers and the champions win without competing?
The root word of competition comes from “competere” in latin, which means “to seek together”.
The word competition in its true meaning stand for “to work together” to improve each other- but NOT to “kill” each other. Unfortunately, a lot of people have misunderstood the meaning of “competition” and have confused the meaning of competing to being combative which is closer to the fittest of the survivals.
The true legends that dwarf and make a dent in their industry, goes beyond that plane and level of the average understanding of competition. They understand ultimately the old advice of Socrates
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not in fighting the old, but in building the new.”
A combative mind is focus on the ego and is limited.
On the other hand, the creative mind is in harmony with the bigger “you” and in flow with the natural state of the universe. Which is infinite and abundant.
As a quick reminder and related last week, we reviewed How to create a bigger impact by being decisive. It was very impactful you can read it here or if you prefer video you can watch it.
The great ones understand and adhere to the principle that life is always seeking greater, and fuller expression of itself.
Very Simple: “THE HIGHEST FORM OF COMPETITION IS CREATION”
To land the plane, the best example is the automobile industry history or creation from Henry Ford in the late 1800 early 1900’s. Henry Ford when asked said this: “if I had asked the customer what they wanted – they would have said a “faster” horse not the automobile.”
The insights of Henry Ford lie on this principle below according to R Buckminster Fuller.
“You Never Change things by fighting the existing reality. To Change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
If Henry Ford didn’t think beyond the “competition”, his level playing field would have been let’s train faster horses. Instead he brought into existence something more reliable, faster than the horses.
Now whether in sport or business, any titans that we all admire have used this principle that I’m codifying here.
When you look at a Michael Jordan in Basketball in his prime or a Pele in Soccer, what made each of them outstanding is clearly their ability to create beyond themselves. They created at a different plane and a total new category that redefined the old paradigm in their field.
Amateur performers rest in the plane of “tic-tac” or fallacy definition of “competition”.
In other words, the number two imitate the number one and try to either do it faster, cheaper, or stronger. That’s an old model of the world.
That model might work, but IT is NOT effortless, and it has a price tag that is NOT optimal and can for sure be improved.
Just to be nerdy a bit if you don’t mind- let’s look at the power of understanding higher models.
If you want to watch the full nuances you can see it in this channel.
In other words, for example if you were tasked to show people the fastest way to reach the number twenty-five (given that you have five set of numbers “5”).
Clearly you have many options.
A second grader would probably select all 5 set of the “5” and use addition like (five plus five plus five plus five plus five equals twenty 25 e.g. 5+5+5+5+5 equals 25).
A fifth grader that is familiar with a higher mathematical model could choose multiplication and choose just two sets of “5” to make it twenty-five e.g. 5*5 equals 25
A senior in High school could choose just one set of five. By using the mathematical operation power.
Five powers 2 equal 25… 5ⁿ or 5 square 2 equals
As you can see all three of them are correct in getting the same results, but obviously the high school student has a higher knowing and mastery of the models.
It is not different when it comes to human performance, solving problems, leadership or creating a new reality.
The old model of competition is what the average performers are familiar with-
It is based on scarcity and the Newtonian model of the world, which describes the principles of physics that most of us learn in high school- For every action there’s an equal reaction.
That law is true just like addition makes sense above.
So, what is the higher model here then?
It’s the quantum physics model of the world that Albert Einstein has developed.
The basis of that model is the duality of particles/matters and wave like pattern of our realities, where any three dimensions “reality” is abstract.
Yes, quantum physics teaches us that particles are pocket of probabilities or that an observation is a collapsed “probabilities” of a wave pattern like.
To keep it simple the maestro Albert Einstein says it in a plain English by his famous quote.
Albert Einstein “problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking than they were created at”.
The idea is that – everything is connected- for every action there is reaction but at the same time it’s all one; that understanding make you aware that it’s NOT a “fight” one against the other but rather all in one. That level of understanding makes one realized that in the end if you are not aware, you might be fighting yourself.
Why is that relevant?
It matters because what that mean is that it’s all about transformation and at the same time conservation of energy.
That’s what quantum physics brings to the table, that conservation of the energy systems (E=MC2), is really a statement that it’s all about transformation because everything is connected.
That’s the exciting news with quantum physics if one grasp it- we’re not separated, we’re all connected. Which means it’s all about learning how to transform.
In fact, that’s why I love Judo (the martial art I have done for so many years). It’s called the gentle way because it applies this principle of minimum effort for maximum yield (I have discussed that principle amply here in the past in this post).
It’s all about transforming that energy. For example, if someone pushes in Judo, you don’t push back, you use that as leverage, and same idea when someone pull you, you follow through and utilize that energy.
Now you probably might say enough, that you get it and how to do it?
Here are three easy steps on how to do it.
Step 1: Understand and study your field, your industry. Meaning what are the trends? What can you anticipate.
Step2: You need to know what is your unique genius? What is your X -factor?
Step3: You need to elevate your level of thinking- this is where the transformation happens.
For example, in Soccer- Lionel Messi- who is right now one the best player of his generation how can he elevate his thinking?
Level 1- Messi can think of his immediate goal which is to score goals for Barcelona so he can make his salary goals. That level of thinking will yield a level one performance.
Level 2- Messi can think of his performance as if he was scoring for the Barcelona fans. And winning for their fans. That level of thinking will yield a level two performance. Obviously, it’s going drive Messi to go beyond himself and his personal constraint.
Level 3– Messi can think of his performance as if he was performing to motivate more people to be soccer fans and soccer lover. That level of thinking will yield a level three performance. Obviously, it’s going drive Messi to go beyond even more.
Level 4-Messi can think of his performance as if he was performing to inspire anybody watching him play to be their very best and inspire excellence in their arts and in their crafts.
That level of thinking will yield a level four performance. Obviously, it’s going drive Messi to go beyond even further.
As you can see all these four levels are example about the same performer who is thinking at different levels.
What is clear the power generated by Messi at level 1 is NOT the same as the level 4 of Messi.
That’s the big secret that legends performers or icon perform at; some of them without knowing about it as it was part of their “standards”.
When you think at that level, the only outcome is creation, because you are connected to the field, to something bigger than yourself on top of using your unique genius.
This is how champions are trailblazing their fields.
This is how they become Number one in their fields without “competing”, as they are really creating for the greater good.
Then if you want to win and have a team, foster an environment where people can freely create.
If you are sole provider create that environment within yourself by following these three steps.
Do not forget, the highest form of competition is Creation.
Check the video here.
Please comment below on what are your thoughts ?
Till next Time,
DARE TO SHINE
If there’s one thing that separate the world class in any field from average performers is their impact, productivity and results.
As we reviewed last week, legend performers demonstrate more courage. Their courage is the foundation for their actions which yield results. You can see it here in video or in the blog here.
The foundation of their courage is found in the clarity they have forged and developed over time.
One of my most favorite quote from Winston Churchill is the following “Courage is the greatest virtues because it guarantees the others.”
Now, the most important element that ignite courage is what we’re going to discuss here.
Courage if not ignited becomes merely “false” pride.
What ignites courage is Decisiveness.
Decisiveness is what separates the weak leaders, players from the strongest ones in any field.
Decision comes from Latin decidere, literally, to cut off, from de- + caedere to cut.
What are you cutting yourself from when you decide?
You are putting to bed, “other options” versus THE option that you have chosen.
If you are like me, you probably like to keep your options open, so that you can take advantage of as many opportunities that exist out there.
The feeling of being “constricted” can be scary especially when you have a high performer identity and feel that you have many aptitudes.
In fact, one of my favorite quote from Bruce Lee is “having No limitation, as your limitation”.
So how do world class differentiate and tap into the power of being decisive?
We will answer this question throughout the next points below.
What is important to notice are the three core mistakes that the mediocre ones make when it comes to deciding.
The biggest mistake they make is this-
They play, or they lead from the position to NOT “loose”. The mediocre players play NOT to lose.
In a way their entire strategy is merely defensive, scarcity based, fear driven- their vision is restricted to a minimalistic view of the opportunities and what’s possible.
That strategy clearly is an underlining lack of confidence and courage. It’s playing small.
There’s a huge distinction I want to make, whether you are defensive player or not.
The reality is, if you play to win, you know that you need to mix and match both, by being offensive and defensive.
The bottom line is that if you play NOT to lose, you are already throwing the towel about what is possible for you and your dream.
People that are playing to win, have a vision and have ambitions.
Now the second mistake that the average performers make is they worry about how they will be perceived if their decision wasn’t right- they worry about what people will think of them.
They get frozen by analysis paralysis.
While the world class know that mistake will be made, but here’s their biggest secret-
They know that mistake will be made, but they are assuming full responsibility of their decisions outcome. That ownership mentality is the hidden secret of world class.
They know, either they win either they learn- regardless they are winning in both cases- That’s the champions’ point of view.
The third mistake that the mediocre performers fail to grasp is that “not making a decision, is making a decision”.
Are you aware of the decision you are NOT making?
Are you aware of the options you are not letting go, but that you know you should let go?
Why is that important?
When you let go, you create more room for the new opportunities that you can welcome.
This is how world class are decisive. their foundation is courage and clarity.
As discussed last week, with courage, they can step into their why, and with clarity they get connected to what matters to them.
The world class look in into what they want the most.
With clarity you know what your priorities are. You know what matters to you.
With courage, you know why it matters to you.
Now with these two as a foundation, you can build on. The video here give a great perspective.
Now let’s be practical. The great news is that decisiveness is something that can be exercised, practiced and improved.
Let’s say you have 3 options, A, B, C, options to choose from. And they’re all equally valid options.
How Do you decide?
Lock in with courage and clarity, here’s the third option that I learn from a good friend of mine.
It’s called the “consider box”.
It’s a way to “free” your mental and nervous capacity so you can process on your choices.
The consider box allows you to choose one option and to allows you to “store” the two other choices unto a “consider box”.
If you choose, let’s say option B- you would store A, and C into the consider box.
Meaning as you moved forward with your option B, you will always have a time to come back and look at B, C as viable options.
This trick is a way to “trick” our subconscious mind. Especially for people that wants to keep their options open as we discussed in the beginning.
In a way, the power of constricting is helpful in those instances.
To go deeper, we need to “limit” our options. It might seem contradictory, but not really if you analyze it.
To manifest faster, “limiting” our options is like focusing like a laser beam- Like the power of condensation is what brings the rain. The tighter the pressure, the most likely brings the rain.
That is the maturity, the world class leader has awakened to.
They are balancing when to “restrict” their options and when to keep it open so they can get the optimal choice.
But the choice is simple.
Not deciding is deciding. To get out of that vicious cycle.
Make sure to build on the foundation of courage, clarity, and consider box. So, you can decide faster and create more impact sooner.
You can check the video here.
I learned this from a friend and mentor of mine, Jeff Spencer who is an Olympian and coach to lot of peak performers.
This a triad for decision making. Jeff ‘s framework suggests asking yourself three questions.
- Is it the right time to pursue this choice?
In other words, adding the time dimension is helping to weigh in about the primacy of the opportunities. Which one is more ripped to pursue?
- Do I have the right skills to successfully engage in it?
This question allows you to gauge your skill level, your improvement and development plan
- Can I handle the accountability if the outcome is not as I envisioned?
This question helps us clarify our ownership. To take full responsibility like I shared initially in the beginning.
I hope with these insights, this will help you practice your decisiveness skills and do not forget, the more you train it, the better you become.
Till next time,
DARE TO SHINE
We’re going to visit together how world class amplify courage so they can act and get the results they want by leveraging their past and their roots.
Why is that relevant to you?
Let’s face it, anything worthwhile in our lives that we acquired and allowed us to expand further, required courage.
Whether it’s giving birth, getting a degree, winning a championship, negotiate a major business deal,
We need courage.
As one of my mentor Mary Morrissey would say, fear is the border of the reality that we know.
Courage is the element and character that allows us to cross the unknown territories.
Courage allows us to act during uncertain times, and as we know the only way to get results is to act.
So, courage is an active component that is necessary to manifest.
Before we go further, quickly I wanted to quickly remind you of last week blog and video what we discussed- HOW LEGEND PERFORMERS OUTPERFORM THEIR COMPETITION BY MASTERING “ONE” SINGLE PROMINENT SKILL?
First let’s dive into the root and origin of courage.
Courage comes from Latin root word “Coeur”, which means heart.
In a way, an act of courage requires people to step beyond the logic brain and the seen; courage allows us to stretch ourselves and to go beyond our comfort zone. Courage requires a motive and a heart pull toward our intention, the definite purpose we’re after.
Courage is needed for anything that allows you to grow and become the bigger you.
The question then is, “How do you use your roots, or past” to amplify courage?
Courage is needed to go beyond fear.
Why do we get fear?
Fear is born out of uncertainty.
Warren Buffet, one of the icon investor of our modern times, shares his wisdom relative to investing –that risk “exist” out of Not knowing.
Not knowing, creates fear for most of us, and that’s what freezes people to NOT act.
This is where the leverage comes in. How do you use your roots, your past to create knowingness?
When you know, that you know, you generate certainty, which eliminates the doubt.
Your deep knowing fosters you to take action, furthermore to get results.
This is why, many teachers talk about having clarity on your why-.
Clarity main role is to help defined what matters the most to you. Clarity help make things understandable.
When you have clarity, the “yes” is clearer and the “no” becomes more decisive and punctuated.
Having clarity allows you to prioritize faster.
What helped me to understand this principle was the understanding that- in order to manifest and ground our ideas into physical form- we need to embrace “restriction” or “limitation”.
It sounds counter intuitive for someone that longs freedom like myself; but the reality is that for example discipline allow you to build structure and develop more freedom actually.
If you have self-discipline for example in your eating habits, you can choose to eat healthier and then that gives you the freedom to be more vibrant and healthier. Self-discipline to Not eat everything and restricting yourself gives you the freedom you need to live longer and be more productive.
That’s fundamental- clarity allows you to be more productive, but even more it allows you to gain more courage.
When you know your roots, when you know who you are- you have that certainty- it’s a fact that cannot be taken away from you. You can build on that. The easiest way is to claim a piece of heritage, or roots or past that you are always proud of.
The devil’s advocate would say, what if I’m not proud of my roots or past?
Let’s address that.
This is where the masters and champions rise. They use one optimal tool- they switch it around, by asking themselves- What could I learn from the past/roots/heritage that could serve me?
How can I utilize the bad memories as learning lesson and stepping stones to claim what I want for myself?
Stanford Ph researcher Carol Dweck coined it “the growth mindset.” In her book Mindset.
The reality is this- people trained with this framework are always in the learning mode and will always grow.
So, to bring it home, for example, if someone as a past that they are Not proud off, the champions turns it into a learning lesson on things to avoid in the future.
As an example, if someone has had an abusive parent, one of the “learning” could be going forward, I want to make sure that my children do not suffer what I went through, so I know what I don’t want- which also is form of clarity.
Not knowing what you want is also a good boundary settler; mainly because you learn what you stand for and what you can tolerate.
In a way, regardless of what happened in the pass, you can build on that knowingness as a benchmark to generate more courage.
The way you do that is by being grateful about the experiences you have been exposed to.
By claiming your roots and your learning, you are grounding your certainty.
You can see the video here.
Emerson says- “Every person is a doorway through which infinite passes into the finite and through which the Universal becomes individual”
As you claim your certainty, and your knowingness, you can acknowledge your experiences and your learnings. As you step to acknowledge what you have, you are stepping into gratitude which is the frequency of abundance.
The big secret here is that you cannot be grateful and be fearful at the same time.
It becomes a reinvigorating power, all the way from using your roots or past to move forward and step into courage.
The way you step into courage, is to step into what you know.
Now back at you,
How do you generate courage?
Please comment below… and share if you find this useful.
There are differences in results many times when we compare legend performers versus the average performers or the mediocre ones.
Sometimes, we can point out to many different factors even internally.
Today we’ll discuss one factor that is overlook BUT that is the fundamental factor that separate world class with average performers.
Before we move further, let’s pause here for a minute and take a deep breathe.
Can you think about, what you were just thinking about the same moment when you read my request about taking a deep breathe?
What was the thought you just had?
Was it like come on, Soul what is your point?
Or were you curious?
Regardless of your thoughts, what I wanted to highlight, is that unique gift underutilized we have as human being-It’s the skill of METACOGNITION.
Before we dig further and see why and how world class leverage it.
I wanted to quickly remind you of last week blog and video what we discussed- How can you embrace challenges and problems so they can serve you to go to your next level of performance?
Coming back to today’s topic. You can check this week video as well here.
What is the one skill that allows legend performers to excel in their field beyond any norm?
They have learned to master the skill of metacognition.
Let’s take a high-level view first, to put this in context, as most of us take this for granted.
The first perspective is to look at our surroundings, as human species, we have different kingdom that co-exist with our human race; including the vegetation kingdom with is made of anything that constitute plants, trees etc.… there’s also the animal kingdom within which we can identify different type (from reptiles, all the way to the mammal animal (like cows) and families like Monkey which are all closer to us. The monkey family that is closer to us is classified as Homo Sapiens…
A quick reminder of that classification is reminding us of the level of “awareness” or intelligence that exist within those different species. Those level of “intelligence” is what allowed them to “control” their environment and be more causal than effect and reactive. Homo which is referring to Human is knowledgeable and aware in sapiens.
Now We human being are Homo Sapiens Sapiens. In a way, we know that we know.
We can think about, what we were thinking about.
I never paid attention to that skill in my anthropology class in high school.
But now I truly understand the value of it and to take it further, the world class performers leverage that skill.
Now how is this skill leverage by world class?
As you think about what you were thinking about, within the same bleep of a moment, you tap into your ultimate power -the sacred moment of deliberate choice.
It’s that “sacred moment” that Viktor Frankl called the last frontier of human freedom in his book man search for meaning.
That moment exists within us, and most importantly that moment is for us at any given moment as long as we breathe and have life in us.
The masters have learned to tap into that moment most often than the average performers.
How is that so?
When you can pause, and be present to what have been thinking, you can influence, and DECIDE, if the thoughts you just had are serving you, or harming you.
What you were just thinking about, it is empowering you to move forward or it is constraining and limiting you?
Being aware of that moment allow you to guide your focus-
As you guide your focus, you guide what you feel, as you guide what you feel you guide your energy, as you guide your energy, you guide your actions, as you guide your actions, you influence your results.
You might have heard a different version of what I’m sharing here, but what I wanted to point out MOST IMPORTANTLY here, is that all this start with the meta-cognition gift we all have.
Being aware of that gift is the first step, to be accountable and know that anybody can exercise that skill.
A fundamental law of nature that exist at all levels is this “what we don’t use, we lose; what we don’t exercise is hard to build etc.…
So, the skill of meta-cognition is a skill that the legend performers rely on and train on a moment-moment basis, not because they are special or have innate talents, but because they are present to those moments.
Those moments when you sum it up, become the defining moments of winning the gold in the Olympics ten or fifteen years down the road versus that young person choosing a more dramatic route ten or fifteen years later.
How can you deliberately train that skill?
Use your watch, to remind yourself every hour-
Pause- Think about what you are thinking about.
Then as you get better, drop that interval time to 30 minutes, then 15 minutes, until it starts becoming a habit.
Hope this makes sense and serves you.
I’m curious to hear your feedback. Please Go below and please comment.
Till next Time, Dare To Shine.
if you prefer video- Check it out here.
How can you embrace challenges and problems so they can serve you to go to your next level of performance?
The real problem is, that human conditions and reflex, is that as soon as we get a challenge or a problem, we tend to get “annoyed” in a way to NOT welcome the problems.
Our natural reflex to repulse the problem right away, while in fact we should welcome it and use that energy for our own good.
That’s the main foundation of Judo as we will learn later in this post.
Quick reminder if you haven’t seen last week post, we got a lot of positive feedback you can check it here or if you prefer the video you can get it here.
Before, we get to give the tips, it’s important we build the foundations.
In Judo (which stands for the gentle way), the martial art created by Jigoro Kano, the judoka (or judo practitioner), is taught to NOT fight force versus force.
Unlike most striking martial arts, Judo core principle is “minimum effort, for maximum results”.
How is this accomplished?
By understanding three principles-
- The principle of Leverage-
Archimedes said, “Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.”
In Judo it’s all about leverage, where no matter your size, you can subdue in the ground or throw your opponent as long you understand where the fulcrum is (In most case it would be the opponent’s “G” gravity center while the opponent is standing).
- You don’t fight force with force–
Instead You use Sir Isaac Newton third law of motion to your advantage.
The third law states that for every action (force) in nature there is an equal and opposite reaction.
The way you optimize this law into your favor is to lean on it, and act on it from a “higher” vantage point like suggests Albert Einstein in his famous quote – “Problems cannot be solved at the same level of thinking than they were created at”.
That lead us to the next principle that make master Judoka, powerful beyond measure
- The Power of Anticipation
This principle rest on the understanding of Newton third law, but it takes it further into the realm of Quantum physics, where the judoka understands with an abundance thinking vantage point that the opponent is an extension of himself and therefore can anticipate, induce, and probe the opponent to act in certain way.
Now why all these matter to you?
How does this relate to you, your challenges? And how can this help you resolves your problems and propel you to your next chapter?
The best answer to that is one my all-time quote from Napoleon Hill which says, “In Every adversity, there is an equal, or greater benefit if you look for it”.
Well is this mere philosophy or it could be real?
The bottom line is that it’s reality and this is why.
Problems and challenges, we face, are the dumbbells for our human spirit to grow more of life in us.
To grow more muscle mass, develop stronger bone density, in our workouts we need weight resistance to push/pull against.
That makes sense when you hear it, but how do I really adhere to this principle without any doubt.
The key is to understand the fact that life in us is always looking to expand into a freer, fuller expression of itself.
The seed is looking to grow into more, by becoming a tree or a flower, which,
in its own timing, will produce more seeds; so does life in us seeks to become more, to grow more through us…
Owning this foundation is the master key to use Judo three principles for your next level of breakthrough when facing challenges or adversity.
Now let’s take it into our own world.
I guess you have some goals, vision, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this.
In that area that you aspire to grow, or the area where you have challenges, can you think of any titan, any legend that you admire?
Before you move forward, please be sure that you have written down that person name (or it could more than one which is even better for this exercise)
Mine for example, in sport would be Michael Jordan, in Physics Albert Einstein, in Life it’s my grandfather Amoru Asama, in Politics, Nelson Mandela etc…
How about you? Is it business, Is it relationship?
I assume you have that person in mind?
Question for you.
What do you think make that person stands out?
What is this person major differentiator?
What differentiate them is the way the way they look at problems and challenges.
While the average people in their industry and field “compete”, the legends create.
The very best, the legends in all discipline, they don’t “compete”, they create.
To check the video, you can look at it here.
First, it’s important to understand that society has conditioned most people to lose sight of the true meaning of competing.
The Newtonian model of the world, has trained most people to fight force with force, while in fact if you look at the Etymology of COMPETE- it comes from Latin, competere to seek together, from Latin, to come together.
In reality, the true function of competing is to help each other get better and to come together.
While the general definition of competing has taken a color of “combative, which leads to Ego versus ego is a more restrictive view of what competition really stands for.
That Newtonian model view of the world sees us divided, as pure individuals who needs to win or lose.
That mode of thinking is a” survival view” of the world, very deterministic perspective that leads people to perform on a scarcity vibration- of win or lose.
That mode of thinking is for beginner or average performer- who fight force versus force.
That methodology works to a certain extent, but that cannot make you the leader in your industry. At that level- it’s almost impossible to dwarf your problems.
The great ones understand the true meaning of creating- which means “to bring into existence” something new. This understanding of creating instead of “competing” really stem from a deeper understanding that there’s enough to be shared. It’s not really a lack of resources, but a distribution problem.
This is quantum model view of looking at problems, which transcends the Newtonian model.
The Newtonian model works, but that is not optimal.
It’s like different ways to get to the number twenty-five giving that you have potential of using 5 sets of unique digits.
five plus five plus…. five time, will yield twenty-five.
Five times five will yield twenty-five.
So, the result is the same but in the addition case, you are using five “five” and in the multiplication case you are using only two “five”. The point is that one is using leverage and the other is not.
This is where the Judo principles come in handy.
How to use leverage, how to anticipate and how to step above the problems energy coming at you so you can develop yourself to the next level.
The easiest way to remember this is to look at problems as the energy, the force, the resistance coming toward you.
As a good judoka, what do you want to do?
You will not fight force versus force, you will step aside or above the challenge and “use” its own power against itself. If you look at the video- it’s well illustrated here.
To bring this home, I love R. Buckminster Fuller quote below quote “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
Okay how to be pragmatic and how to apply Judo here.
The video here helps.
Three questions below will help you flip challenges over their head so they can become an asset and NOT a liability for you.
What can I learn from this situation, problem, challenge
What capacity can I develop, grow through this problem
How can I use these new capacity, these new skills, to serve more, to contribute?
I hope this serves you.
Stay tuned as next week we’ll work on building this further.
Please share this along.
We reviewed in the previous post How To Reach Faster Your Goals Through Your Past? If you didn’t see it yet, you can check it out here.
Today, we’re going to review how to govern over our goals, projects, our dreams and lead the game with indomitable confidence…
If it sounds or feel like a bold promise, it is.
I’m going to do my part and share some personal perspectives with you “with confidence” just to illustrate the point of this blog.
I am confident that in the end of this sharing you will be able to understand on how to generate confidence at will when you need it.
How about that for a confident and bold promise?
Are you game?
If you’re ready for a ride, let’s jump in.
It’s very important to discern one key distinction about confidence.
Confidence is NOT Arrogance, and it is one of the major myth misunderstood concept out there.
What is the difference and the nuance between Arrogance and confidence?
Arrogance is always related to the ego and it has a sense of entitlement that comes from people associating with the past.
Arrogance is born from a false sense of superiority by comparing self to other people; this is why arrogance is limited at the ego level, because it is concerned with competing and comparing self to others; While confidence on the other hand has an expanded perspective because it is looking beyond self as we will understand soon.
Arrogance is framed from a relative “position” vantage point. For example, a prince who has inherited the title of “prince” because of his birth parents might feel arrogant toward a non-royal child because of society standards. Arrogance is not sustainable and not build on solid foundation, while confidence is timeless, and without boundaries as we will see later.
Another extrapolation to not confuse, is the far-right polarization of arrogance, or sometimes associated with being presumptuous, which is even worse than arrogance as it’s an empty sense of arrogance, in a way that it is purely based on a sense of entitlement and with lack of respect towards other.
Notice, Arrogance cannot exist by itself- Arrogance needs a company- arrogance is always in context with someone.
Second major misunderstood myth about confidence is what I called the amateur confidence.
The amateur tie a direct correlation between confidence and performance, results or outcome achieved or attained. That’s a rookie move. Confidence comes from within and is not tied to our performance.
Not to alienate this popular believes that suggests that we build stronger confidence as we perform better. That’s the confidence built in the “alike” of the doubting Thomas who always claimed that
I’ll believe it when I see it first.
In fact, part of the human condition leads us to lean toward that kind of conditioning since birth.
We learn to develop confidence based on our previous actions; In many cases, based on our past behaviors and actions we are rewarded accordingly. In a way we are trained to rely on “conditional confidence” based on our past behavior; Kind of “karmic” confidence;
Confidence is something that is NOT karmic, in fact that’s probably one of the only element that normalizes our lives on earth like death is for every human being.
Now, that we know what confidence is NOT, let’s learn about what confidence is all about.
Confidence comes from the Latin CON- fidere. The prefix “con” means “with”, while “fidere” means faith, trust; meaning confidence is derived from the meaning of moving with faith and trust.
It’s important to make a difference here, faith is not necessary here a “religious” or blind faith- rather a trust based on a reliability and on something that we can count on no matter what.
What that means?
Confidence, unlike arrogance (which is past based) is forward looking -based on trust.
What trust are we talking about?
It’s a trust based on an unfailing relationship- that relationship is the covenant we have, before even our birth since the first heart beat we have in our mother womb- it’s the abiding relationship with life itself that’s beyond any circumstances, or any human beings.
Any master, any legend that you truly admire that built and develop an unshakable confidence had at some point the deep seeded belief- that no matter what their circumstances are, there is something within them that is bigger than their current circumstances.
Whether, it’s Thomas Edison creating the light bulb, Columbus daring the ocean, Steve Jobs chasing his dreams of being a business tycoon and making a “dent” in this universe, or a Michael Jordan excelling on basketball court… they all had one thing in common- they all new within that there’s something greater than what their circumstances were.
Confidence is built inside out- Not outside in unlike many amateurs suggest it.
Now let’s find out and see how we can develop that infallible confidence.
I’m going to pause here and I really hope you do this exercise (that might seem trivia), as this is something to be experienced, again and again, no matter how many times you’ve done it.
Let’s take a deep breathe right now.
As you are reading these lines. Could you please stop for 5 second and take a deep breathe?
Can you feel the air in your lung?
Please take another deep breath. three or four times if you can.
Now let me ask you the simple question, that breathe that you took, did you perform that breathe by yourself?
Were you mindful and present in those inhalation moment?
Did you feel this power that is with you that allows your heart to beat as well?
There is a power with you, as you feel your breath, or your heartbeat.
The truth is, no matter how you want to call it, Life energy or spirit or field or God, or no matter
your religious affiliation, that power is real beyond any circumstances, beyond any interpretation.
To simplify, why don’t we call that power as life itself?
Now, this is where you build within your unshakable confidence-with three principles that are undeniable.
If you prefer video, you can check it out here.
Adhere to the principle without a doubt, that life given to you, precede any circumstance, organization, institution that there is.
The fact is that life in you- is relevant as long as you keep breathing, because that’s the definition of life itself in this case of utilitarian perspective. Life itself doesn’t have waste-
What is not used dies, or it’s supposed to grow.
That brings me to the point about life itself- Life is always seeking to grow and expand. The seed grow from the ground to become a tree.
Life is always seeking to expand itself by definition or it will evolve and change its form.
It’s trusting in that relationship with life, that as long as I breathe, as long as my heart beat,
I can trust life itself. It’s a covenant with something bigger than myself, or any other relationship we can experience as human being because it’s precede everything else.
That’s where true confidence is built. From within. It’s not something given to you, or based on “conditional results”.
Indomitable Confidence is build from the deliberate practice of understanding our relationship with life itself, that goes beyond any society norms, or standard, or results.
Moving forward with Confidence is then trusting on the relationship we have with life itself.
It’s acknowledging that there is, this power inside us, with us, by us and for us always at all times as long as we keep breathing and our heart is beating.
If one truly understands this principle and adhere to it. Life itself become a playground where you are here to develop and grow your capacity, so you can contribute.
With that, you can approach any game, any project, any goal with unshakable confidence- that no matter the outcome, you will crush it.
The video here is also explicit here.
Now I’m curious about you, Post below what you do to generate your confidence?
Till next Time, This is Your Moment-DARE TO SHINE
We reviewed in the previous post How To Ignite Your 2018 Vision With your Why?
If you didn’t see it yet, you can check it out here.
Today, we’re going to understand and review how to reach your goals faster through your past.
When you can change the memories of your past, you can move into a new future and by means of that you can elevate your vision for the future.
We’re going to discuss a powerful practice that has been shared in all cultures, traditions by many masters.
You might have guessed by now?
If not let me share with you a short story to illustrate this point.
When I was little boy in Africa growing up, In the tropical forest, I was very scared of a snake called green mamba. The green mamba has the reputation to kill people after between 30 minutes to 2 hours of its bite. I think I even developed a snake phobia because of the green mamba.
However, when I grew up I realized that the green mamba bite is not deadly but its venom is.
After the green mamba’s bite, the venom enters our bloodstream and if we don’t stop it on time, when it mixed itself to our bloodstream, it reaches our heart and lung and by mean of that- there’s asphyxia.
Why is that relevant to you?
Each of us has had hard moments in the past, and most of the time we hold to the energy of those moments as we feel victim or we feel that we’ve been wronged and we cannot change anything.
Ultimately, there’s one thing we’ve all heard about and know about but not of all us know it’s true power of The power of Forgiveness–
To Forgive means to exchange and give your old perception for a new perception.
The general paradigm is that most people believe that we are supposed to forgive because of our religious affiliation or anything like that, but here, I want to share why we NEED to forgive for our own sake so we can claim our power back and redeem ourselves regardless of the action, or the event.
Similarly, the event or the snake bite doesn’t kill or make us stuck from our past-but it’s us holding ourselves unto our own perception and interpretation of the events. So that’s why we want to release that perception, whatever that is, that is Not helping, we need to release it so that, it doesn’t infect our blood like the venom.
Let us review together and understand the phenomenon of holding on to the blockages of the past. Here the video with deeper explanation.
For the most part, there are two levels where people hold onto the energies of the past.
For one, if we‘re in relationship, there will be miscommunication, and betrayals, and so much more.
That comes from the feeling of being hurt- where we feel that- we’ve been wronged in some way, shape or form. We feel frustrated, angry then, toward that person, sometimes it elevates to resentment, blame.
That happens to all of us.
Here’s what to be aware of at that point- we are stuck in that energy.
We are turning around and circling into that circular energy that is toxic like the venom of the green mamba.
Just to bring it to consciousness-we are without doubt in the victim energy when we feel wronged, hurt, or resentful – In that victim energy we’re NOT resourceful and we are holding ourselves back.
This is when forgiveness is needed; very simple, it doesn’t change the event, but in forgiving you are creating a new relationship with what happened with the event and therefore you are creating a new relationship with your past.
You are giving away that old perception for a new perception- you are redeeming yourself.
Forgiveness is an act of redemption.
According to the merriam webster dictionary to redeem means to change for the better-modification of Latin redimere, from re-, red- re- + emere to take, buy
: to free from what distresses or harms: such as
a : to free from captivity by payment of ransom
b : to extricate from or help to overcome something detrimental
c : to release from blame or debt : clear
d : to free from the consequences of sin
Forgiveness is allowing you to start a new.
So, the question becomes what are you redeeming and what are you buying back?
By releasing that stuck energy, you are renewing yourself, by giving that old perception for the new- you are redeeming yourself.
In that sense-Forgiveness makes all things new.
It’s NOT whether or not, we should forgive or not- the real question is to understand that it’s a principle and a fact. Like gravity, you can pretend to ignore it or you can acknowledge it and use it to your advantage, own it yourself and claim it.
Just in case you find yourself saying that you do NOT need to forgive, or that you don’t have any trauma from the past, I would like to caution you that as long as you’ve had interaction with human beings you would need to include this practice as something frequent enough.
Why this matter to you?
Without forgiveness we get trapped with dark energies that keep us fixed and make more matter like. The more focus we are on those dark energies the “heavier”; the more matter we are and the harder it is move for our future visions or goals.
The lighter you are, the faster you can move while when we are on the blame and Victim vibration, we are focused and more particles like as in matter: because we are focus on one thing- me, myself and I.
When you forgive you are expanding your core vision- you come to change the perception that what happened is bigger than your ego.
In that way you are expanding your vision, your energy field.
Let me repeat this- Forgiving doesn’t delete the past, but forgiving will heal you and allow you to create the future all new again.
The second way that we get stuck in the past, is when we were expecting some events to occur, some goals to be met, but they didn’t happen and we get disappointed.
This event necessarily wouldn’t have to have someone involved, it could have been a goal you wanted to achieve that you didn’t accomplish; so you get disappointed; or sometimes we get to blame ourselves- By feeling guilty into something we were expecting to be able to do but that we didn’t do -so we get into this negative circle.
In fact, so many successes are being self-sabotages because of these energies of self-doubt, blame, guilt, which flow into worthiness and self-esteem later on.
Regardless of the emotion, the reality is this-
You cannot change the event that happened but as you learn to forgive, you are creating a new relationship with the event and your past.
As you create that new perception from your past, you are simultaneously creating a new relationship with the past, and from that you are transforming the energy associated to that event, and as you do that, you are changing yourself and you are freeing yourself to build your future anew again.
When you forgive what you cannot forget -It creates a “new” way to remember- And from that act you are allowing yourself to change your perception relative to the event-
That’s where wisdom is built-we change the emotional charge of the memories of our past and through that we are moving into a new future.
How do we that in reality?
Step 1-Realise that events do not define you.
You cannot give your emotional energy to that event anymore.
When you are angry or resentful toward someone/something, you are giving part of your life to that person.
Ask yourself if that person merit your attention and your whole spirit enough in such a way that you are willing to waste part of your life in that non- resourceful energy of victimhood, angst, accusation, blame.
That same question can be asked if it was guilt or blame.
The younger you, or the less wise you (that has grown and know better now)- does it deserve that you waste your time in trying to correct it?
Just pause and acknowledge and say- I AM SORRY.
Step2- you can decide who you’re going to be and how you’re going to be.
When you forgive, you are claiming the freedom and the authority that you are more than any event, circumstances or anybody actions toward you. You are claiming your wholeness.
In that space, what turns the energy is you asking the question: what can I learn from this?
What capacity can I develop with what happened?
Every one of us has had hard things in our lives, the power of forgiveness liberates us from those hard things, it doesn’t change what happened to us, but forgiveness allows us to transmute the relationship to what occurred to us and by means of that we increased our capacity to hold more, be more and have more and do more, and then we are elevated and finally we are freed.
It’s a way of bringing healing to any part of us that is out of alignment.
As I was reflecting on the redemptive power of this practice, I got reminded of a practice that I had used years ago and it did help me- and it’s in regard to Self-forgiveness-
It’s also a practice called ho’oponopono- that is very powerful. A four-step process.
By repeating a mantra- I’m sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, thank you.
It’s a practice that is powerful as well.
Basically- it was a self-cleansing and connection to the bigger you. I added some context
I’m sorry it wasn’t my intent to harm you or punish you,
I didn’t know any better -Please forgive me,
I love you from all my heart.
Thank you for allowing me to notice-
I wanted to quickly provide couple more resources
Another preeminent teacher that helped healed many people is Byron Katie– her process is called
Specifically. The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any stressful thought. It consists of four questions and a turnaround.
The four questions are:
1-Is it true?
2-Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3-How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4-Who would you be without the thought?
The next step of The Work, the turnaround, is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you have believed.
Another teacher, that has helped thousands is Hale Dwoskin(who learned with Lester Levenson) through the Sedona Method.
From their own words-
“There are three ways to approach the process of releasing, and they all lead to the same result: liberating your natural ability to let go of any unwanted emotion on the spot, and allowing some of the suppressed energy in your subconscious to dissipate.
The first way is by choosing to let go of the unwanted feeling. The second way is to welcome the feeling, to allow the emotion just to be. The third way is to dive into the very core of the emotion.”
Stay tuned next week, we’ll be learning with another powerful practice that can free you to the next level as you work toward achieving your vision.
Now you can just go and enjoy the live version .
We reviewed in the previous post How to amplify your vision. If you didn’t see it yet, we got a lot of positive feedback you might want to have a look here.
Today, we’re going to understand and review how to ignite, or spark again the fire anytime that vision fades away.
Why is that relevant to you?
There’s a real secret that throws out of balance most people. I promised, if you apply that one secret, that will change your life forever. It’s a promise.
There will be difficulties on the road; and some days will be cake walk, some days will be more challenging, and the best way to keep the vision alive is to ignite it with your why.
We’ll review why is that.You can check the video here as well.
In the end, I will share my why, if that can serve you and maybe inspire you to affirm, confirm your why.
First let remind ourselves of two principles we discussed last time.
The concept that humans are electromagnetic fields, emitting and receiving frequencies and vibration in/out into the field.
We are creating field around us and as within us- Albert Einstein demystified the relationship between matter and field with the new paradigm about the primacy of the field on matter (not matter having primacy on the field).
It’s well explained on the video here.
The second concept that we reviewed was the concept of emotions-
Emotions are on/off switches. It’s a simple concept that we overlook most of the time.
But if we can grasp the idea that our emotions are either off or on, it’s an empowering thought to realize that we are either happy, or sad, or angry etc.…
In other words, we cannot be happy and sad at the same time.
That seem obvious, but the reality of understanding this principle make you realized that at any moment we are feeling a certain feeling- and we cannot play ostrich because it’s very distinct feeling – a positive and empowering feeling or a disempowering and negative feeling- Which one would you rather be?
Again, here just to clear, I’m advocating to be always positive or always negative but since emotions are indicators it’s important to be aware of them as they dictate the vibration we’re in.
Now let’s jump on the secret I want to share.
Why is it a secret? Because most people even if they know about it, they don’t know the power of the principles.
When we are clear about our vision, it’s a huge step forward and a victory first step.
The trick about the way our brain is wired is that, as we get clear with our vision, our brain is trained by default for us to find out what’s missing to get that vision. (like an airplane auto adjusting to get to destination). So, our brain is wired and trained for survival to always look at what’s is missing.
However, here’s the secret- We need to move right back and control our focus to what we have (despite what we want to achieve).
That’s very tricky BUT this where almost all of us daily lose the terrain on this subtle detail.
As we exercise our intention- we need to take inventory of where we want to go Yet we need to REMEMBER what we have.
Why? Because what we have is our base; it’s the foundation on which we build what is yet to be manifested. We need to come from that place of creation and creativity to become more, to do more and ultimate to have more.
That’s the million Dollars secret that is simple but very powerful.
One example that I could give is let’s say if one of my resolution was to lose 20LBS this year, and so far, I have lost let’s say 3 LBS; our brain is wired in such way that we want to look at how to lose the remaining 17LBS; in a sense we’re looking and focusing on what we don’t have yet.
The correct action is to notice that and right away tune your vibration- be in a joy mode and acknowledge that you have lost already 3 LBS. come from that place of acknowledging emotionally even though mentally you know you have more to go.
What that does, that switch, make you want to lose more weight, because you are building from a place of joy and what you have. Rather than being a struggle a “fight” and say, 17LBs of wow etc.…
This is a simple example to illustrate my point about taking control of our intention and focus.
Make sure to Not vibrate from the “lack”- the switch is key- ultimately, your brain is showing what you don’t have- it’s telling us we don’t have it.
In fact, one quote that is a different perspective is from Neale Donald Walsh- “Gratitude in advance is the most powerful creative force in the universe”- Neale Donald Walsh.
I’m curious to read your definition of gratitude-Would you share below what is your definition of gratitude?
Now let’s transition to the second big piece of today’s topic on how to ignite our vision when it fades away.
The easy button answer is -Connect to Your WHY.
I was at conference over a decade ago, and I heard John Maxwell shares the metaphor that there are two important days in one’s life-
The day they are born and the day one’s find out what they are born for. That was a life changing moment for me at that moment as I was in a place of soul searching and I was lost.
Now in hindsight, I see the power of that still mainly because your vision and you why are interrelated and connected.
As we discussed about field- I would say that your why is the governing field energy of our motivations and actions.
If the field govern matter, we better sure that our why is clear and coherent as well.
So, the simple answer is to ask yourself-
Why your vision is important to you?
When you find that, it becomes a pull, No longer a push. Everyday becomes a riveting fulfilling and meaningful day.
As yourself why you want this vision manifest?
Keep asking deeper (five levels of why like a toddler whom would ask question until sunset) until you get to the point of answer that link you back to contribution to people, humanity. For the main reason that regardless of what you believe, you are here in human from in this plane and your contribution must relate to humanity otherwise there’s no reason to be here in this form.
I explain more on that in the video if you want to understand this perspective.
In many cases, your why is in the vicinity of your purpose.
The truth is that what you don’t use, you lose.
This not mere talk, in fact in cellular biology there a phenomenon called-Apoptosis- natural death of a cell based on its non-activity.
That’s not an easy answer – There are lot of resources very helpful- One of the consultant that articulates very well this on the business level is Simon Sinek (Start with Why); he illustrates in his Ted Talk how leaders inspire action and companies. One of the best watched Ted talk of all time- I highly suggest to watch it if you haven’t yet.
There are two ways to get to that answer I found.
One way is to toward the positive and the pull- What excites you- Why?
The other way is to look at your past and ask yourself what is deep pain that always you wouldn’t wish on anybody else?
What is deep pain? From the past- You wish it wouldn’t happen-
Why is that important to you.
As you can see I can spend hours talking about this, but let me illustrate with my why, maybe it serves you to elaborate on yours?
My pain came from witnessing at young age in Mali, financial “limitations” that I saw percolated into people behavior, some into victim hood or renunciation.
At young age, I didn’t know what it was, but deep down inside me, I always felt that there was more to life than what I was experiencing, and in way- I inherently knew that there’s something bigger than I could see. I just could feel it.
So, it pains me to see people with elephant might and strength to run away from small cat like if they felt they were little mice themselves.
That’s a pain that up today drives me- where- We feel like we don’t measure up sometimes- we feel sometimes that we don’t deserve to be here…it happens to all of us.
In fact, part of my journey and revelation was for me to realize after travelling the world that it wasn’t only an African problem, or European problem or an American problem but that’s it’s a humanity problem. It’s that pain that I don’t wish to anybody led me into doing what I’m doing now.
On the other hand, what excites me is to see people light up; I get excited to see people in their passion and in their full power with integrity and grace.
This is my why in one sentence.
It’s To Activate People To Bring Out Their Genius, So that We can elevate together, built and transform our world.
Another way finally that I called the worth it test-
If you could time travel and get to your death bed and look back teaching your great grands kids the worth it lesson.
Would you be able to tell them, I’m glad I did, because those where the things that matter to me.
And it is still worth it.
Would you be happy to do even if it was for free?
Or if there was only one person that you impacted – would you still be fulfilled
What would happen if you serve only one person- would you think it was still worth it.
Make sure your why pass the worth it test.
I know it’s a lot of content today and I hope that serves you.
If you think this was useful. Please feel free to share this with people as I would want you to join me in my why😊
Next week is exciting as we start to build on the concept of planning and managing with fears.
Are you ready? This is your moment-DARE TO SHINE
How To Amplify Your 2018 Vision?
Last week we discussed the importance to review and validate our vision despite the gifts of challenges that would come our way. If you didn’t get a chance to see it go here, we got great feedback.
Today we’ll discuss how to amplify the vision we are developing and why that matters to you in getting the results you are seeking.
To insist again on the element, we discussed two weeks ago- the importance of clarity in our vision.
Let me share a different perspective on clarity.
The clarity element is important if we look at our thoughts, ideas, intention and even ourselves as electromagnetic broadcaster field.
It’s not a secret that some specialized bio labs are able to measure the energy around our body itself, or put it blunt simple-
Haven’t you experienced interferences sometimes with electric wires?
We are emitting field of energies even though it’s not visible to the naked eye.
Why is that information relevant again?
It’s important to remind ourselves of this on a day/day basis because each frequency dictates different energies that we tune into and therefore provide different results. Like a radio receiver-emitter tune into different channel based on the frequency we choose.
Now let’s dig deeper into the amplification part.
So, if we understand the concept describe above, we understand that the clearer a vision is, the more focus it can become.
Now let’s dig into my favorite part, to make something clear means to make something understandable.
To make understandable to what? To our subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind doesn’t recognize the difference between a fact and a vision. It’s like a matrix it takes the form that we impress upon it. That’s why sometimes our dream feel so real while we’re asleep and that our conscious mind is asleep that it’s important to understand and pause on our subconscious mind.
In our case here, as discussed into an earlier post, our brain has what is called the RAS or reticular activating system (which allow us to pay attention to something that matter to us)- for example when you buy a new car you see it everywhere for some reasons- It’s not that more car are in the market all of the sudden the very next day, it just that your brain is paying more attention to it because it’s something that matters to you.
Also in those vein, our conscious mind is the CEO of our brain but it cannot store a lot of information for us to act on, that’s why lot of information are stored into the subconscious mind (like our abilities to walk etc..) are all encoded into us for us to be “unconsciously competent”..
Since our subconscious mind would play a major role in helping us “unconsciously” while we even sleep to get our vision amplified it’s important we understand what language the subconscious mind speaks.
The conscious mind is our rational mind while the subconscious mind is our Emotional Mind.
You can check the video option more detail here.
The subconscious speaks the language of emotions.
One of the fastest way to trigger emotion is through pictures (whether internal or external).
Is your vision well defined in such a way that you can picture yourself into doing, having, or being it?
The more specific you can be the more power to you.
As yourself the questions.
What do I want to experience? What do I want to do ?
What do I want to have?
Why do you want to have? To do?
Who do I want to experience with?
When do I want this to happen?
The idea of the question above here is to help you get clarity on your outcome.
CLEAR OUTCOME is what Napoleon Hill call a DEFINITENESS OF PURPOSE.
Hopefully the two quotes below help you dig further.
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality.
To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” Buckminster Fuller
“The Secret of Change Is to Focus All of Your Energy, Not on Fighting the Old, But on Building the New.”Socrates.
As we get clear on our outcome, the next step is to pay attention to what’s working.
What am feeling? How is my emotional level? What results am I getting?
We got to be aware of our internal state, how you are feeling at any given time- because an emotion is a matrix of sensation in the body on which we attach label to.
The secret to remember is that emotions are on-off switches- in other words we either feel the emotion or we don’t. We are either associated to it or we are disassociated.
On top being clear on the pictures (internal or external), the tonality of our internal dialogue also can help amplify the emotion we are seeking. WHEN WE TALK TO OURSELVES, we talk to our head, with a tone voices, which varies from place to place and time to times.
So to amplify your vision, clarify the pictures and spiced up the emotions… that will lead us to the next step that will discuss next week. Step into your why-
Why this vision is important to you?
I’ll share with you a great resource as well for people that want to deepen their clarity.
Please post below your comments
Are you ready?
This is Your Moment & Dare To Shine
PS:Don’t forget if you prefer video,right here- reader’s digest summary just 10 minutes.
DO YOU WANT MAGIC PILL AGAINST FAILURE?
The First best kept secret is to have the best insurance against it…
We were supposed to review how to amplify our vision and dreams this week and I got knock down by a bad flu which is why this is getting to you later this week than usually… and guess what?
I realized that it’s third week of January almost last week of January that’s about when according to statistics a lot of people give up on their news year resolution.
So, I figure this was the best gift that life and nature threw at me… why not share some of the ninja mind tricks of the legends.
HOW DO LEGENDS & MASTER’S TRANSMUTE SETBACKS/FAILURES INTO GOLD MINES?
That’s our topic this week…
One thing that any success, dream building, vision achieving, have in common is setbacks, obstacles, or sometimes confused by some as “failures” that in the end of this section- I hope we will agree to put that word in the closet and evolve our lexicon.
Since It’s an important part of it, hope you are okay for us to discuss that this week.
I briefly discuss touch upon this in a different context month ago here… (CHAMPIONS ARE MASTERS AT FAILING FORWARD).
In fact, IF there was a skill that create the huge divide between the average and the legends it’s this:
Now you might have heard about what I just shared or maybe a version of it… But I’m sharing in today’s video, is a different vantage point that is more holistic whether you are a high performer, agnostic, scientist, marketers or any field.
It’s very simple- In my accounts- I like to start with one of my all-time favorite ninja -Jedi mind trick quote-“World class understand that “failure” are just learning steps towards their desire results.”
In fact, the word failure doesn’t exist in their mind-it’s all feedback, learning toward their ultimate goals.
If there’s something that cannot be substituted with anything in champions, it’s this aptitude they have developed.
They have embraced the word “fail forward”. In fact, the smartest ones, fail fast so they can get over that phase or stage of development.
Every Adversity carries with it the seeds equal of a greater benefit- Napoleon Hill.
This was democratized in think and grow rich over eighty years ago.
The reason I like this quote is because, it’s the root of many studies in many fields we see today (sport psychology, social sciences, high performance, organization behaviors etc.…), validating this somehow seemingly simplistic or philosophical view of transmuting adversity into winning rather I want to emphasize indeed the power of the potency of the quote for the initiates one.
Let’s dig deeper and fast forward 2006 well know and renown Ph D. researcher Carol Dweck from Stanford University wrote an award-winning book for “parenting-business-relationship-school” called Mindset, The New psychology of success “How we can learn to fulfill our potential” …
In this book that I highly recommend, she discusses her findings- in the end she “finds” that there are two mindsets- the one that drives to excellence and the one that impedes it (especially since childhood).
The good news in her findings is that the success mindset can be trained. Or the way she called it is the Growth mindset which is in opposite is the “fixed” mindset.
Fixed mindset is a less flexible approach to project, execution while it’s been encoded in this mindset, lot deterministic beliefs that are reflected in behaviors like you have such talent for this, you are so good at this and so on and so forth-That seemingly encouraging reinforcements to our children can be impeding in the long run because the “individual” identity is being pushed. That become a real challenge when for example the child grows up and wakes up and realized that “realities/results” is Not matching up the earlier programing; results are damaging. The adult or child self-confidence goes down and the less effort is exercised by that person.
While in the opposite the growth mindset praises the effort; praise the opportunity for standing up and trying again- in the end that child, that organization has fostered a winning formula for life and template that would last generations and decade to follow.
This is high level summary of that book, but I do hope you buy and read it as she has many studies and experiments that goes beyond my point here.
This book couldn’t codify better Napoleon Hill paradigm,
It’s all about learning.
In fact, let me take a bigger step and say in a bolder way- (as it is the theme that I’m stepping into this year). “No One is ever defeated until the time you accept defeat as result.”
This is not philosophy or psychology but a bold proposition rooted more toward the next point I want to make. When one succumbs to defeat, in my mind it’s a blasphemy to life itself.
Let’s pause here for a second -Take deep breathe- another one
Could you feel the oxygen running into your lungs?
No one on earth has given you that power- So for that reason- no human definition can supersede the idea that you are a winner already with that breathe and life in you- As far I see, no one is failure, no acts or behavior can define your being as a failure.
Now, please don’t quote me wrong-As a high performer, I’m NOT advocating complacency, but rather an inherent confidence builder in knowing that as long there’s any life on earth still in us no matter the age, the circumstances we still have that power that Napoleon Hill talks about to transmute any adversity into a winning situation if we look for those seeds.
In other words, any setback is just another step to your next level.
In fact, I’m not even sure we should use the word setbacks. That means we are looking at results in a linear way or into a Newtonian model based reality of the world, which works for a materialistic limited vantage point of the world.
But with quantum physics breakthrough we now understand the non-deterministic model of the world- success is NOT linear.
Every step is just another opportunity to get better.
Let’s put it this way, as shared earlier, to grow muscle and get stronger, we need to use weight “against” our muscle so they can grow stronger.
I called it the growth paradox ™- which I explain to my clients in more depth. It’s a language use by life itself for us to assert which that we want to create.
If we could instantly create with any thought, fear, we had in mind, the world would be crowded and it would be a crazy jungle to live in maybe, as our childhood fear mixed with some adults wants would coexist. That’s a fantasy that is up for a grab for our next evolution as we master to use our attention and intention properly.
Let’s face it…Most of us cannot control our own mindshare with today’s attention-grabbing economy. So, if we could master our mindshare and influence ourselves our realities would be much different.
As we learn to exercise the power for life given to us- which is META COGNITION, we learn to transmute adversity into winning step (Stay tuned for more in the coming weeks).
Without going into the deeper rabbit hole- I want to end with this.
“NO ONE IS READY FOR A THING UNTIL YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN ACQUIRE IT OR GET IT” …
Failures are stepping stones that build us into believing more into ourselves. The experiences,
The trial and tribulations are helping us to get clear into what matter to us.
Until we become clear about what matter to us, we won’t know what is the “end” game.
Knowing that end game is the ultimate game changer. If you enjoyed the reading here, feel free to check the video where I share a slight different angle here.
Next week we will dig deeper on how to amplify the vision.